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    A Study In Pink
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    A Scandal In Belgravia
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    His Last Vow

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  1. Episode 1.1, "A Study In Pink"

    I kind of think Sherlock would be interested in the kind of conversation we've been having, predicting human behavior from understanding mating as an anthropological thing, not an emotional one. "Oscillating on the pavement means it's a love affair gone wrong. She's young and possesses symmetrical features typically considered a marker of good health and therefore attractiveness, but she is wearing an engagement ring far too expensive for the majority of men her age to afford, so likely an older fiance...."
  2. Episode 1.1, "A Study In Pink"

    I did get a good one.
  3. Episode 1.1, "A Study In Pink"

    I think it can be as you say, or it can be mutually advantageous. Men get the benefit of a woman who is attractive to them (and men are often the more visual creatures), and they have the advantage of a woman who is likely more fertile and better able to carry children. Women get both financial and physical protection, plus they get the stabilizing influence of an older man when they are finishing their own maturation. Of course, the reverse arrangement happens (older woman/younger man), but it typically doesn't result in marriage as often. But it is, IMHO, part of the reason that a "Mrs. Robinson" situation still gets a wink and a nudge ("lucky guy"). The idea of a woman at her sexual peak but not her reproductive peak temporarily choosing a young man at his sexual peak is also engrained. I also don't think women look for "any old goat" with money. Part of that "marrying up" package is a man who is successful, able to be protective, and demonstrating more typically masculine qualities. The older a man gets and the more he loses some of the markers of masculinity, the more wealth he needs to have to be attractive, until we notice the pretty young thing with the old goat. But that circumstance is more rare; I think the biological urge is probably more toward mating with a man that is 10-15 years the woman's senior at most. I don't blame men or think that them wanting to "marry down" is a fragile ego problem or even a fault. It is, as I've been arguing, partially a biological imperative. The challenge for women like me (and most of us on here) is how we are going to deal with it. I chose to try to play up any physical benefits I had going for me and play down anything other than intelligence, which I was never successful at hiding, and hope for the best. Turns out my hubby later told me he was actively looking for an intelligent woman because having someone to talk to was important to him. (I fell for him on sight, so there's that.)
  4. Episode 1.1, "A Study In Pink"

    I agree with this. Men tend to marry "up" in terms of youth and attractiveness and "down" in terms of intelligence and socioeconomic status, while women do the reverse. I can't blame anyone for this; I think it's partially natural. I'm glad to hear that many of you didn't take quite the beating I did in school over intelligence; at least there must have been a few sane school districts out there! In any event, my experience doesn't have to map onto Sherlock in canon. It is just my own way of identifying with him, just like those with ASD often see him as on the spectrum and those who are asexual see him that way too. Sherlock is an interesting mirror in which to see ourselves and have ourselves validated, which is a pretty cool feat for a fictional character.
  5. Episode 1.1, "A Study In Pink"

    Someone mentioned Walter White above. For me, I didn't like Walter, but I felt a connection to him because every dumb a$$ thing he did was a response to life kicking him while he was down, repeatedly and without mercy. I think intelligence alone is enough to make many people hate you. I spent my entire K-12 existence being called every synonym of "freak" that you can imagine. It took me until senior year in HS to get to the point where I was starting to feel that being myself, even if that earned me derision, was more important than trying to please everyone. Before that, I did everything I could think of to try to get people to like me; I even ordered a book about making friends and tried to employ the strategies, only to have not just kids, but *parents* say that there must be something wrong with me because of my intelligence. (Parents even told my own parents they were glad their children weren't intelligent like me.) And I promise, I didn't flaunt it about and I didn't do anything profoundly strange; just the normal day-to-day interactions and my grasp of information and nuance in class were enough to make plain exactly how I was different. For that reason, I give Sherlock a lot of room for his behavior, because if he went through something like I did, it makes for an interesting place to be as an adult. On the one hand, you want to protect yourself by appearing to enjoy exactly what makes you different - as long as people are going to think you are only useful as a party trick, might as well embrace it and use it to keep people who can hurt you at bay. On the other hand, the desire for human contact is still there, and every interaction brings the hope that you might find someone who accepts you as you are. I found my "John" in college (no Johnlock implied here ), and I was simply terrified that I would do something to drive her away, because she was functionally my first best friend. She was the one who would say "amazing" when everyone else said "p*ss off." Even before we found out about Sherlock's childhood in S4 (and man, I'm still trying to make sense of all that from a character standpoint), I think the fact of his brilliance alone is enough to explain quite a bit of his behavior and give him some leeway.
  6. Benedict Cumberbatch News

    I agree with Pseud. BC is not particularly aging well, and the shorter hair takes away some of the softness that those odd and angular features really need. Right now (don't kill me either), I think he mostly looks older and tired. MF, as Pseud points out, seems to be getting better with age. Sometimes those guys with the boyish good looks early on become absolutely stunning when they hit their prime in middle age.
  7. Episode 2.3, "The Reichenbach Fall"

    Count me in on this one. The alpha male thing really does it for me sometimes, and this is one of those times.
  8. Mycroft Holmes

    I'm with Arcadia a bit on this one. I think they decided to emphasize her role as a mercenary, which can indeed be heroic (as well as profitable). They sort of glossed over the "she's gone a bit freelance" comment from CAM by having Mycroft say that he stopped using freelancers after the AGRA disaster. However, I always assumed CAM's comment referred to Mary being hired by a private individual or non-governmental agency to off an enemy, which can be ethically grey. The only way for me to make sense of both S3 and S4 Mary is to go back and assume that Mary thinks that John will feel that any killing she ever committed was unjustified and enough to make him not love her. I find that a stretch, given that John's a soldier and has pretty much admitted to killing people, so he would be in the best position of anyone to understand her motives.
  9. Mycroft Holmes

    I think this is another aspect that suffered from the desire to get things wrapped up by the end of S4. I think we were supposed to take John at his word in HLV that he was willing to keep Mary's past in the past and work on their marriage, and his frustration and infidelity was an inexcusable reaction to being a new dad and suddenly tied down. But then they had to overlay that with a rushed plot where Mary's "freelancing" is discovered to be at least in part something heroic she was doing for Mycroft, and there's a whole lot that should have been said/shown that was elided for speed. That's unfortunate.
  10. Mycroft Holmes

    I agree. I'd go so far as to say that, at least with CAM, Mycroft probably wanted Sherlock to get involved, because he knew Sherlock could do things outside the law that Mycroft himself could not. I think Mycroft relies pretty heavily on "freelancers" (including Mary, although I know he said in TST that they had stopped using freelance help). He has become adept at keeping his own hands clean, maybe justifiably. If he is seen as analogous with the British Government, then any actions he takes might implicate the PM or the entire government. However, he can disavow a freelancer, and, in the case of his brother, he may just trust Sherlock enough to think that Sherlock can get the job done. Regarding the Mary discussion above, I haven't read it all, but there are some very interesting points about why he continues to trust her. I think I'm leaning toward the idea that there were plot lines that were scrapped for a hurried redemption arc in preparation for bringing the show to a halt or at least to a long pause.
  11. I assume when you say "partially possible because he's a man," you mean (even ignoring the fact that he's a trained fighter) John can hit harder than Molly because testosterone makes for bigger, stronger muscles. If Molly had kicked Sherlock while he was down, the way John did, it wouldn't have looked as violent because it wouldn't have *been* as violent -- and might even have looked a bit silly. Exactly. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk
  12. I agree. Grey's Anatomy has done some really good work creating female military doctors; to me, they seem very natural and intriguing. I like the added layer to their personality/background.
  13. Totally agree. (With both Pseud and Toby, who was typing while I was!)
  14. In some ways, you have Sherlock's female mirror image in Molly, who is an intelligent, resourceful, yet socially-awkward woman. Now it's not a a one-to-one comparison because Molly is an original character who has evolved over time, and Sherlock is an adaptation of the Victorian character. But think about the fact that both John and Molly hit Sherlock when he was using drugs. John's actions, because they were so much more violent (which is partially possible because he's a man) read as violent, whereas Molly's slaps read as spunky. Sherlock is able to stand and take it while Molly hits him, while he cowers on the floor during John's attack. The situations aren't completely analogous, but I think some things come across differently depending on gender, and social awkwardness may in some cases blunt gender differences but it doesn't erase them.
  15. I have no trouble with the idea of doing an incarnation of Sherlock Holmes with a female Sherlock; I'm excited to see Miss Sherlock. I do think it is a firmly AU idea, because the original Sherlock Holmes is, to me, extremely male and masculine, so it changes the character to make him a her. To the original question, if you wrote a character as male, I think simply doing a search and replace on the pronouns would not work. Women speak differently than men on average; if you look at Deborah Tannen's work on communication and gender, you will see that. So, at minimum, some of the things that come off as borderline arrogant from a male Sherlock would probably read as extremely rude from a woman. Plus, women move differently than men (or men move differently than women, if you like), so some of the descriptions of movement would need to change to convey the same effect. IMHO.

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