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  2. Carol the Dabbler

    GIF Your Mood

    Go pet the cat?
  3. Alas, I have nothing off-topic to discuss. But here is Gandalf the White … Squirrel.
  4. Now working on a batch of hovering tomatoes. They wait until the moment is right. Bwahahahahaahaaaaaa….
  5. Arcadia

    Recently watched movies

    Okay, okay, you've convinced me to give it a try. If only to gaze at Chris Hemsworth….
  6. Arcadia

    GIF Your Mood

    Oh my. I feel all of you. What are we to do with our pathetic selves? Be proud of our ability to take care of ourselves, that's what! (There's got to be a silver lining here somewhere, right?)
  7. Artemis

    GIF Your Mood

    ^ Same. I actually don't think Facebook is responsible for that; but what is, I couldn't tell you. I just know that I was noticing it long before Facebook. Whether social media has made it worse, or if it's just always been like that, I don't know either. I've had several of those. I tend to end up in a "free therapist" role in relationships, where I'm basically just a sounding board for someone's latest woes when they can't talk to their other friends. I've grown somewhat accustomed to it, and I'm actually glad that people feel like their problems are safe with me; but it's very one-sided, and fickle. When I was deep in depression, I had no one. Those people gradually disappeared and aren't part of my life anymore, and in recent years I'm a lot less open to people who show signs of using me like that, because I want a real friendship. Hence, I'm alone. I think what's missing in a lot of friendships these days is trust. A lot of people have several friends they spend time with and go do things with, but how many of those friends would they say they trust and feel like they can count on? Probably not many.
  8. besleybean

    Benedict Cumberbatch News

    Too late for me , when it aired.... And I am such a noob with Catch up... Faced with 20,000 episodes- I couldn't find that one!
  9. Carol the Dabbler

    What is your favourite scene involving Sherlock and John in series 3? (SPOILERS)

    Yes, that's in Three Garridebs (an otherwise unremarkable story, because it's basically a retelling of The Redheaded League with different details).
  10. Carol the Dabbler

    GIF Your Mood

    I know what you mean. I do sometimes use the word "friend" rather loosely (e.g., if I'm just telling an anecdote and it's quicker to just say "friend" and it doesn't really matter anyhow), but it does seem that the word is used rather freely by some people, especially nowadays. I suspect that Facebook has something to do with that. How can anybody actually *know* hundreds or thousands of people, let alone consider them friends? Oh, dear, I had one of those! I actually like her a lot, and enjoyed talking with her when we were in a group (which we usually were at first). But if it was just her and me, all I'd hear was her latest woes, and she could go on for (literally) hours. One day I wanted someone to talk with about a situation in my life, and figured OK, she owes me one (or more!), so I phoned her. Three hours later, I still hadn't had a chance to bring up what I'd called her about. So I don't bother to phone her any more. I kinda miss her, but I'm really tired of hearing nothing but woes.
  11. Carol the Dabbler

    The great toilet-paper debate!

    Yup, it sure does, as long as you don't mind those posts being removed from their original threads. But I'm puzzled -- how would this new thread differ from a good many of the ones we already have? Whaddaya mean, the way we are? Huh? As for new seasons, #3 was the worst, following after Reichenbach as it did, but we managed somehow. We didn't get the new episodes over here till a while after they were aired in the UK, so we American mods had to either brave the spoilers or avoid certain threads. Coward that I am, I chose the latter, because I knew that some of the other mods had already seen the new season, but that meant that I later had to play catch-up in a major sort of way (just look at the post count for the Empty Hearse thread!). Different time zones are actually helpful, because it means different mods tend to be online at different times, so if something requires immediate attention, it may even get it! And if we need to confer, we just PM each other.
  12. Van Buren Supernova

    The great toilet-paper debate!

    Geez, I realize that only four of you are active moderators. How did you guys cope when we had fresh season? Not to mention different time zones. Is the stress make you the way you are? But thank you! So does it mean that you can actually create a thread with every random comments from other threads? For example, each of us choose five random posts that are mostly nonsense, and you mixed it in your magic cup together and voila, the posts would be shown in order of the dates, making it as if we were talking about something that makes no sense at all. That would be fun and deter most newbies from coming thinking we are crazy, well as if we are not now whoaaa who should I bribe to make this happens?
  13. Van Buren Supernova

    GIF Your Mood

    I remember I used to look at my extrovert colleague and have difficulty understanding her. So this girl at work came to my table on her first day, striking conversation (we come from the same country in foreign land), and she tagged along for lunch since then and I'm now 'her friend'. She called me everyday to talk about herself, and when I tried to make it more enjoyable for me by sharing my stories as well, it didn't go more than a minute. She tried to introduce everyone she knew to me, tried to include me in every outing, and as much efforts 14that she made, I always had this resistance because I had never feel close to her, not at all. Up to the points when I had to blankly reject knowing more of her friends, most of the time she brought them to our office lunch, outings, in situations where we couldn't say no. But when she visited the country I was staying after I moved to another job, I rejected her visit with yet another strangers and she really resented me after that. Her treatment with me is not special (the socializing effort), because she did it everybody. So I remember summing her up with one sentence A friend to everyone is a friend to noone. She was never my friend, regardless how she felt about it. I bet she barely knew anything about me.
  14. Van Buren Supernova

    GIF Your Mood

    Can I offer a piece of advice for you who feel left out from your family/friends? It's an annoying advice though. The way I operate, deliberately or unconsciously, I always automatically distance myself when I feel that I'm not welcomed anymore, even at the very beginning when the signs only start to show. I do this in friends, family or even work. I think there is only one reason in my mind, I don't want to be in places where I am unwanted. Life is not rosy, stressful and I'd rather be gone than feeling rejected, don't feel like I need that in my life. So, that's what I do. If I have the feeling that there is less and less enjoyment when hanging out with a group of friends, when it's getting harder to get everyone together, I'd take the first step to distance myself. Same thing with relationship, although I don't have many experience. As much as I don't want to admit, I think most of it are for selfish reason. Many times I pulled the plug too early but I think it probably feels early because I pulled it before it goes downhill and makes it a little too late. In short, I'd rather not overstay my welcome and maybe you'll still remember me fondly. I could be wrong, but hear this. If they don't want you to be around, don't think of it as your fault. If friends suddenly act coldly and you thought that's because they are influenced by others, it means they are not good enough friend who bother to check with you the other side of the story, they are not worth it. Friend is someone who believe in you, or at the very least, believe in you enough to fact check the things said about you before making judgement. And last but not least, people actually change. It's weird, but we could grow out of what we used to be and become a different enough person. People you clicked with in the past might have very different aspiration and view of life now. I am not sorry to say that I 'quit' relationships from friends who can't stop talking about their kids, money or religion who tried to guilt me into all those. Some people can't resist trying to save my soul, my biological clock or not wanting me to live on the street while all I need is a friend. So if you think you are not in these category, again, don't blame your self, there are many other opportunities out there to find genuine relationship than holding onto the broken ones. Sometimes, with distance, it actually helps healing the broke relationship too. In short, I know those rejections hurt. So don't let it hurt more, if you can.
  15. Van Buren Supernova

    Andrew Scott News

    Update, Anyway, I binged season 5 in .. one night continuous watch. It's actually not advisable to binge BM at all. It's emotional exhausting, although in season 5, it feels quite alright. Well, compared to me binging all 4 seasons in a week. Andrew Scott was really good in Smithereen, the second episode. He carried the whole episode, for the half of it I really forgot that he is Jim Moriarty or Andrew. It was powerful, emotional, and made me feel for him I even shed an ugly tears and I don't normally do that watching human movie. which makes it my favourite episode of season 5. Overall, this is not the strongest season but it's still good for me. Unsolicited advices before you watch Black Mirror: - do not read spoilers. No no no NO! That is seriously big part of the enjoyment. Please remember my constipated face any time you are tempted to read spoiler! 😠 - If you find coincidences of BM episodes with reality, BM did it first. It's weird and what makes it more awesome. Example National Anthem, The Waldo Moment, Nosedive. - Each episode of BM is a stand-alone story. You don't need to watch them in sequence. There are Easter eggs here and there but that is all the connections that they have. They are all different, sometimes the concept is familiar but it's used to tell different stories. Having said that, the first episode is really really weird so be prepared if you start from that one. You might hate it. It left me dumbfounded but I was so intrigued that I hovered my hand to click on the next one after I recovered. - It is mostly about technology and how it impacts people's life, in its intended ways or not. Anyway, eventually viewers seem to have certain expectation when they watch a BM episode. For example, some always expect weird technology, which imo, it's not what the show is. I'd say don't let it ruin your enjoyment and form your own take for the series. The greatest thing about BM to me; it keeps me thinking. I have millions of questions and what-ifs for every episode. It fascinates me beyond hours of the actual show content, and that is, what I'd say a great show.
  16. Van Buren Supernova

    The Cute Animal Pics/Videos Thread

    @Caya's The neighbourhood one seems nice for walking/cycling around. There is big patch of green as well. But I feel suffocated at the city center, I don't see a tree! Not one tree! Not one! I think I wouldn't last long there. Hella, remember what Sherlock said about disguise? It's an art! Although, eww.. kitty
  17. Van Buren Supernova

    Recently watched movies

    Whaaaa... I enjoyed it. Whaaaa... I enjoyed it. Men In Black International. 6.5/10 Seems like critiques hate it, but I find it quite entertaining. I don't remember much from the original, except the ugly pug, didn't watch the subsequent sequels too, so maybe I'm not infected by the need to make comparison.
  18. Van Buren Supernova

    What is your favourite scene involving Sherlock and John in series 3? (SPOILERS)

    Love that one too. I guess somehow I understand now about why John didn't invite Lestrade for the .. bachelor party? Lestrade is much closer to Sherlock. From this and bear hug. And yes! I think the agent's defenestration is my actual favourite scene. I really like angry Sherlock, especially when he is defending the people he cares about. That is why I'd always defend HLV *duck Arcadia's flying tomatoes.. If I remember correctly, there is a part in the book where he almost goes crazy after John is shot. It is subtle, but touching moment when John realize how much Sherlock cares for him despite his cold exterior.
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  20. Artemis

    GIF Your Mood

    I think it depends. My mother and brother are both extroverts, and they make friends very easily, without doing much of anything. People want to be friends with them. Other extroverts in my acquaintance make friends with similar ease. But I couldn’t say it’s the same for all extroverts; I doubt it is.
  21. Arcadia

    Benedict Cumberbatch News

    Wow, that was quite a set up. I do get a kick out of Corden's little mini movies.
  22. Why assume the cat stole the sausage, anyway? One look from those big pleading eyes was probably all it took.
  23. Arcadia

    Your favorite (male) actors

    I imagine it's relevant only if you want it to be.
  24. Arcadia

    GIF Your Mood

    Do you suppose extroverts find it as hard to make friends as we do, but they're better at faking it? Or are they really better at making friends? Or is friendship a different thing for them? I have plenty of acquaintances that I'm "friendly" with, but I wouldn't really call most of them "friends." But I suspect a lot of people do use the term "friend" more liberally than I do.
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