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Everything posted by T.o.b.y

  1. Well, either when she's off the meds (first attempt to discontinue them will probably be in about a year). Or when we have a vaccine. Or if Germany should by some miracle become new-virus-free sooner. Or if the "immunity after infection" theory were to be proven true and I had a positive antibody test. If there were an emergency that required me to visit her, I would dress up in full protective gear and do it. But otherwise, it's texting, phone and Skype for now. Perhaps when the weather gets warmer, we'll meet outside some time. I think that could work - open space, both wear our masks, keep six feet apart etc. But no hugs...
  2. I think if I didn't have a kid to worry about, I would almost like the pandemic lifestyle... But motherhood aside, there is one aspect that makes me really sad atm: my best friend, the "Sherlock" in my Watson life since childhood, is on immunosuppressants and I work with sick people. So we can't meet at all, even though things are calming down here in Germany and hanging out one on one would otherwise be perfectly legal and reasonably safe atm. But nope. No taking chances here. It's weird, we're both rather solitary and have been perfectly content with only meeting in person once a month or so for years. But now as we're both feeling increasingly burnt out and blue from this whole thing, we're finding ourselves really longing for each other's company. Seriously, I saw that scene from The Lying Detective the other day where Sherlock and John hug and agree that nothing is ok but it is what it is and I almost cried because that's exactly what I want right now and I can't have it.
  3. I my opinion, it sounds like you did the only right thing in that situation. From personal experience and after some thought, my stance on that kind of situation is: people have a right to choose what they want to do with their life, even if that means they choose to get rid of it. They do not, however, have the right to burden me (or anybody else) with that decision. If anyone sends me a halfway believable suicide note, I will call an ambulance, period. If they aren't happy with that then don't send me the note. End of story. Only you can decide whether you can and want to forgive her and if you want to renew the friendship. Maybe make a list of pros and cons?
  4. Awwww. Thanks. And thanks for not saying "well, you shouldn't have had a kid" or "well, you should have had more kids".
  5. Can you teach my son to do that? 😅 I can't work from home but my husband has been trying. Trying... Somehow, we failed to pass on our loner genes. The little man had us draw another boy on the sidewalk with chalk and declared "he can be my brother". Poor kid. At least we found a really sweet babysitter for a while. But she'll have classes again soon.
  6. Depends on their age and abilities... I would have loved it probably and never wanted school to open ever again. Getting an education at my own pace without having to deal with the bullying and drama, meeting only whom I want to occasionally and getting personalized feedback from the teachers online? Yes please! 😂 But I doubt it would have worked for 90% of my classmates. How much (or little) the kids are offered right now varies greatly from school to school. Overall, it doesn't appear to be much... Germany has neglected equipping public schools for the digital age so the options are limited for most. And then there are the really small kids who can't be left to themselves yet. That's a whole other can of worms. Around here, unless you have a really high paying job, a family can't live off of only one income so parents are dependent on daycare or some other form of help to make a living. But daycares are closed atm, grandparents aren't supposed to visit and social distancing has destroyed many other informal support networks. It's a bit of a problem... But as long as we have soccer and the shopping malls open again, everything is apparently juuuuust fiiiine. 🙄
  7. Yeah, the soccer thing makes my blood pressure go through the roof as well. Did you happen to catch that radio interview with this one politician who seriously claimed that it was "too much to ask" of the German people to go without soccer games indefinitely? The same guy didn't want to even discuss re-opening playgrounds, schools or daycares, btw. Or allowing public protests. Interesting priorities... It sounded like, God forbid people get educated and question my decisions. Much better to just have them sit in front of the television watching sports. I really shouldn't complain because keeping your job and steady income these days is a real blessing, but I always feel kind of left out by all these "how to keep yourself busy in quarantine" posts, articles and memes online. Boredom isn't exactly my problem right now.
  8. Do you guys think he's serious about these "suggestions" though? Seems more like trolling to me; saying something utterly outrageous once more just to get more attention and press coverage (and distract from other, more important issues).
  9. Thanks! Actually, they do show it. What I hear most often is "aren't you afraid?" No, tbh, I am not. Concerned, worried, tense, yes. But not scared. If I catch the virus, it's very very likely that I won't become severely ill. The same for my husband and son and we're keeping everyone else at a distance. My greatest fear is passing it on to a friend patient unknowingly. But right now, we still have plenty of disinfectant and masks, gloves etc and medical staff are always eligible for testing so I hope that can be prevented. We'll be alright.
  10. Those places are funny... Not. Imagine people not daring to go get care because they don't have a mask! Where I work, we try to provide those simple face masks for patients with symptoms as best we can. We have a minimum of protective gear for ourselves and are re-using as much as we possibly can without being totally unsanitary. If you don't have anything to cover your nose and mouth, just go wherever you absolutely need to go and keep your distance from unprotected people. Cough into your arm and avoid touching things. If possible, call the practice etc in advance, maybe they can arrange something like meet you at your car or refer you to an infection center. Stay safe everyone. P.S.: sorry I haven't been posting, I work in healthcare and things have been crazy what with flexible working hours, rules and regulations changing daily and having to improvise child care because obviously daycare is closed. Hip hip hurray. Not complaining though, I am honestly greatful that at least I get to keep my job.
  11. Well, she's obviously not too keen on the Palpatine legacy and she probably sees herself more as Luke and / or Leia's spiritual daughter and Kylo's Force sister. (I liked the Force Dyad idea but they seemed more like twins to me than potential lovers which is one reason why I found the kiss jarring and weird, almost inappropriate). I don't quite understand your second question, are you referring to the yellow lightsaber?
  12. 😅 When I entered the Sherlock fandom (my first fandom ever and so far the only one I have actively participated in), I had no clue what shipping meant and when I found out, I thought it was the silliest thing I ever heard of. Until I realized that I had been doing it all my life to the characters in my favorite books. I think I began to begrudgingly ship Sherlock and John after / during series 3. I didn't want to but there was just so much romance in there that I finally gave up and gave in and by now, I have made my peace with that. It's a pretty platonic ship in my case though that was perfectly satisfied with the way the show ended. I like to think of Sherlock Holmes as married to his work and while maybe not exactly asexual, little interested in sex beyond perhaps an annual meeting with Irene Adler that's probably more about the thrill of danger than anything else. But I have come to see the series as a love story nonetheless and greatly enjoy it as such - all the more that I know for sure now that everything will be right in the end. I think blowing up 221b was cheesy and over the top but totally worth it just to see John actively helping to restore it to just the way it was before, thus finally admitting and accepting that he goes there not because he has no better alternative but because he likes it and he likes crazy old Sherlock too with his fridge full of body parts and his skull and his moods and everything. I thought John and Mary's relationship was interesting too. It made John look pretty bad at times though imho. The way the show exalted Mary got on my nerves big time but she was a cool character.
  13. I agree. It took two more seasons to repair that damage and it's only just barely believable that it could be repaired at all. I think that's why I love The Lying Detective so much, because it finally gave The Reichenbach Fall the resolution it needed.
  14. This make me mad. How thoughtless can you be. Yeah, I know, it's "only" a fish but it's still a living creature, for heaven's sake. Good for you, taking care of it. Poor little guy. I hope the aquarium at home has an automatic food dispenser so it won't depend on a four-year-old remembering to feed it. Yesterday, one of the cleaners at the place where I work complained that I "never say hello and goodbye" to her. She asked if I didn't like her. Excuse me? We see each other for two seconds per week when she comes to work and I leave. How am I supposed to have any kind of feelings toward her, good or bad? And I always say goodbye before I go, I just don't address every individual in the room. Usually, I am in a huge hurry because I worked overtime and am late picking my son up from daycare, so I run out the door yelling "bye, see you tomorrow!" Nobody else minds. What does she expect, a personal handshake and five minutes of smalltalk? I wonder what my boss would say if I started doing that with him. I think he would fire me. The man is even more anti-social than I am.
  15. Oh, do go on though. I wish I could like this twice. Dracula is a Vampire anyway, for crying out loud. Do those even still have a sexual orientation? Wouldn't they be like, blood, bloooood, BLOOOOODDDD!!!! no matter what genitalia the body they draw it from has or hasn't? That's how I write em anyway. All my vamps are bi / pan / whatever / it's not really relevant. (Yes, I like vampires. I definitely want to see this Dracula too. Some day.)
  16. I definitely think that the private fireworks on New Years Eve in Germany should be banned. Whoever thought it was a good idea to let a bunch of drunk people throw around explosives? To say nothing of all the trash... Imho it would be fine to have public fireworks once a year in appropriate places that get cleaned up the next day. But I wouldn't mind if they disappeared altogether.
  17. What's unpopular about a crush on Han Solo? Welcome to the club!
  18. As far as I can tell, because she's female and not conventionally attractive enough.
  19. I think he's supposed to be the "new Han Solo" and just for that, I resent him. He can't hold a candle to Han. My favorite of the new main chars used to be Finn. Now after the last movie, it is Rey, to my great surprise.
  20. OK, since the last update I can apparently no longer make sense of the forum. Why is my reply inside the quote box...?
  21. I don't want to spoil anything but... Just let me say that while yes, it's primarily about the new gang, most of the main characters from the old trilogy feature in some way too. CGI has come a long way. Arcadia, I think there are some elements that you'll like. I was actually in tears twice. And I don't regret buying the tickets. But then, I am easy to please...
  22. I just saw "The Rise of Skywalker". I liked it... Mostly. But it didn't really fit with the previous films. Seemed to me like some major plot decisions were made very late and then retconned in.
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