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Everything posted by T.o.b.y

  1. There's definitely a lot of overlap between Sherlock and Sheldon. Why Bernadette as Molly though?
  2. I saw the trailer for this film and thought it looked really interesting but potentially disturbing. So I sent my best friend the link, she watched the whole movie and told me "you'll probably like it but don't watch it alone." Husband isn't interested so I'll have to wait until I get together with her (and we've worked off all the other films and series on our ever-growing "must watch together" list... ) Apropos rides and ferris wheels: I would never get on anything like that for myself, I have hight-freight and am not interested in wasting adrenaline. However, I am now a mom of an almost-five-year-old boy with a very different outlook on things and live in a place where practically the only accessible and family-friendly public entertainment is an annual fun fair. So... Let me just say I've had some interesting experiences lately. ("Mom, I'm getting scared! Make it stop!" / "I can't, love, once it's going round it'll continue going round until the ride is over. But there's nothing to be scared about, look, we can see the church steeple down there! And can you find our house?" / "Why are you trembling?" / "Because it's cold..." )
  3. Arcadia: to you. Ideas on how to end phone convos: - at the start of the conversation, point out that you have a time limit à la "I need to do / be at X by Y o'clock". Make something up if you need to. When that time comes round, point it out and hang up with a quick "got to go" or similar. - If your phone has a "knock" option, call it from another phone or line and say "oh, sorry, I have to take that" - If you have kids or pets, they might take care of the issue for you - If you're on a cell phone, purposely go somewhere with really bad reception - Seriously though, nobody is entitled to hours of your time. I think it should be socially acceptable to just tell people you would like to end the conversation. If they can't respect your boundaries then the value of the acquaintance is doubtful.
  4. You never know... I feel guilty sometimes for bringing a child into this world with all its dangers and the dismal prognosis of climate change etc but on the other hand, has it ever been a "good" time to reproduce...? I took a fatalistic approach to it all in the end. Chances were slim enough that even though I'm not religious at all, I told myself well, if it works out I guess it's meant to be. I'm not so worried about how it'll all be for myself long term ("companionship" vs "meal ticket"), more about this little human whom I chose to be responsible for having a decent life and not cursing me for causing his existence. For myself, I have zero regrets already, the past four years have already been worth everything I can imagine. Still, traffic jams and covid rules, sniffles and babysitting can sometimes put a big strain on my nerves...
  5. Me too, my social behavior is entirely performative. I am both an introvert and shy and have learned to mask that over the years. But with Sherlock, it seems more than a necessity. He really does seem to crave attention and an audience. Overall, I see him more as an introvert than an extrovert too though.
  6. Not so much a rant as a whine, but: I got stuck in a traffic jam today on the way to work, had just gotten out of it when my son's daycare called, telling me to pick him up immediately because his mild cold is a violation of their current (and apparently very recently updated) pandemic policy. So I had to drive back while frantically holding 3 cell phone conversations at once with husband, boss and babysitter. Ah, the joys of working motherhood... All of you around here who don't want children, I hope my woes at least serve to make you feel validated... 😅
  7. Hey Kat, interesting question indeed. My intpretation of Mary's appearance in The Lying Detective is that she isn't a ghost at all, rather a figment of John's imagination. He's so upset by her death that a part of him simply refuses to acknowledge she's gone and projects a mental image of her back into his life. Not a hallucination exactly but the fantasy seems to be extremely intense and bordering on pathological. When Sherlock "sees" and talks to her too, I take that to mean he has deduced what's going on with John and simply accepted it in a spirit of "it's ok to not be ok". What does everyone else think?
  8. So maybe that's the reason why I was always a fairly good swimmer...?
  9. That seems so strange to me. But then, I have never really understood obsessing over real people. I go gaga over fictional characters but the actors who play them are only interesting to me in that capacity.
  10. Huh? I don't understand... What kind of argument would a photo of an actor and his wife spark? Are some fans so jealous? Come on, guys (or gals I suppose in this case), even if he were single that wouldn't really change the odds of you getting with him either...
  11. I really was unfamiliar with it and laughing at myself for being clueless. So thank you!
  12. I just took it again out of curiosity too and no surprise really, still came out as INFJ. I notice though that as I get older, my scores become more balanced (with I vs E still being the strongest). I've tried different sources too and always got the same result except once when whatever test it was said INFP instead. Which is nonsense, I'm clearly more J than P. 😄
  13. I know it's formally always plural but at least singular "they" is a halfway practical option in casual conversation that's well enough established to not sound totally strange. I'm not very fussed about "correct" speech; language is fluid and changes all the time. I just don't like long, complicated, artificial sounding phrases that interrupt the flow of a sentence. Would much rather say "they are" even though it's only one person than "he or she or insert diverse pronoun of choice is", which is basically the current approach in German.
  14. I actually wish we had singular "they" in German. It's so convenient when you aren't sure, are talking about an unknown person or trying to generalize. All we have is "he" and "she" and lots of professions have a male and a female name so to sound inclusive, you have to keep saying things like "the actors and actresses", which is long and clunky and complicated, and then someone who identifies as neither still feels left out - and has to either make up their own pronouns which nobody will use or settle for male or female anyway.
  15. I like the sound of that! Nobody uses anything comparable to "sir", "ma'am" or "miss" where I live. It's just last names and "Sie", the formal German "you". Sometimes when people are deliberately trying to be ironic, rude or condescending, they'll say "junge Frau" or "junger Mann" ("young lady" / "young gentleman").
  16. I wonder whether we take original Holmes to be more polite than he really was because of the differences between Victorian culture and our own. BBC Sherlock certainly isn't the most faithful portrayal of the character in the Doyle stories but I think it's a very interesting and far from implausible interpretation. Besides, original Holmes' characterization is inconsistent imho. Like so much in those stories. You can tell they were written over a long period of time and mostly to make money. That's my impression, anyway.
  17. The very first one. I think it's hilarious and iconic and the franchise didn't take itself too seriously yet. I watch movies mostly for entertainment and relaxation. People in my extended family or acquaintances who don't know me that well often seem to think of me as some kind of cultured intellectual and give me arthouse films on DVD that end up sitting on the shelf forever while I fry my brain with high school comedies, kids' movies and musicals. 😅 The last in any way objectively "good" movie that I really enjoyed was "The Shape of Water". I liked the fairly tale feel of it. Old fairy tales like those in the brothers Grimm collection or Anderson are dark and weird too, after all.
  18. ... When you watch the news and your first thought is "oh, poor John Watson!"
  19. Welcome back! And my hat is off to you for managing motherhood on your own. Wow. I had my first four years ago and find it hard enough when husband has to leave town for just a week or so. No clue how single parents do it. You guys must have some kind of super power.
  20. Can I like this twice? I love my husband but my relationship with my best friend is equally important and finding someone to work with permanently is a lot like getting married a second time for me. To the point that I stayed in a part of the country I otherwise would have left asap just because I think I found my "professional partner". Working together really well gives me a rush that's nowhere near romantic feelings but somehow equally satisfying.
  21. Oh wow Carol, great thread idea! I sometimes try to imagine what Sherlock would deduce about me on first sight and why. Hmmm, can I think of anything as clever as the Canadian engineer? I doubt it... I'll have to think a little. As for what information is useful and what isn't, I suspect Sherlock just labels anything he personally finds interesting "useful" and the rest "irrelevant". He seems to be a big rationalizer.
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