Introverts, how is your day?

[Pseudonym]

I hate having my photo taken, the main reason I got rid of Facebook was because I was so sick of people tagging me in photos I wasn't even aware of being in. 

[J.P.]

Yes, now we all can become celebrities when we slip on the pavement. Bleh.

[Carol the Dabbler]

May Heaven save me from ever "going viral"!

[Van Buren Supernova]

I hate having my photo taken, the main reason I got rid of Facebook was because I was so sick of people tagging me in photos I wasn't even aware of being in.

Agree..!

Oh.. tell me more if you don't mind.

I suppose you are younger than me, so it's fascinating to know as I don't see any young person gives up facebook or even stands being without that. I actually see that it has become too much of the center of their life to my eye's backroll. I am here...I am there..I have to post something to announce to the world I am doing this and that,.. to the point I think that some people do something or go somewhere just for the sake of being able to boast about that in social media.

 

But to be fair, that is also applicable to many older folks, I just haven't known anyone younger who gives up facebook and I find that interesting with peer pressure and all. Kudos for you.

[Pseudonym]

Well, I'm not an overly social person anyway, I like seeing my friends, but I also like being able to come home and shut the world outside, the last thing I want is to be bombarded with messages about what someone has had for dinner or that they're going to a party or whatever inane things people like to share with the world. And yes, it drives me absolutely nuts how often people check Facebook, it really is like an addiction, and adding people as 'friends' who you don't even know is really bizarre. 

 

I'm 32, so it wasn't around when I was a teenager, but it was when I was in uni. I've never been into Facebook but I was pestered into joining it for about six months or so when I was in my early twenties, but yea, people tagging me in photos I didn't want the world to see really got my goat - it really makes me cringe knowing that some of those are still out there somewhere. I think it is useful for staying in contact with people who have moved away, but I was always of the opinion that if someone is that good a friend we would stay in contact anyway... I may have learnt my lesson with that a bit, I've lost contact with some really great friends over the years despite trying to stay in touch but at the end of the day if they could only be bothered to stay in contact if I had Facebook they are clearly not as good friends as I had thought. 

[Arcadia]

That's really the only reason I keep Facebook, I reconnected with some long lost friends on there and it's a nice way to keep tabs on each other. But I can't remember to visit it very often (and when I do, I always complain about the experience. ) And it's nice for the photos of growing kids, stuff like that. But if it went away tomorrow, I wouldn't really mind ... I still have phone numbers, addresses and emails of the people I really want to stay in touch with.

[Van Buren Supernova]

That's really the only reason I keep Facebook, I reconnected with some long lost friends on there and it's a nice way to keep tabs on each other. But I can't remember to visit it very often (and when I do, I always complain about the experience. )

 

Same here. That is the reason why I haven't deleted mine eventhough it's been years since my last log-in.

However is it my skeptical me or people seem to be a bit different in facebook?

It's amusing and fascinating to me at the same time, when they show sides I don't know they have (which is nice) or try to build image I know they don't have.(which is eeek) and see how people react to that. (Well, the consensus is, most people are more trusting than me -> or it's only a facade too)

 

And it's nice for the photos of growing kids, stuff like that.

Nooooooooooooooooo....

That is one of the reasons I quit Facebook. Gaaaaahhhh noooo..no..! To be honest, I am sick of seeing post about babies, kids, first week, second week, full report, babies, babies, babies.. rahhhhh. It's everywhere, they are everywhere! I don't need to know the daily inputs, I don't even remember their genders, and seriously, things they post are too private and too much information that it is dangerous especially when the profile is public. Gahhhhhhh!

(Call me bad person but I can't take it I can't take it!)

 

 

Oh.. I had bad introvert day yesterday. Went for grocery shopping and the place was full, long queue, people, people, people.. went hiding in coffee shop and the kid in the table next to us cried and screamed for more than half an hour. I..can't..

[Arcadia]

Aw, but these are my nieces and nephews and there's not that many of them. Other people, I don't care.

[Pseudonym]

 

Nooooooooooooooooo....

That is one of the reasons I quit Facebook. Gaaaaahhhh noooo..no..! To be honest, I am sick of seeing post about babies, kids, first week, second week, full report, babies, babies, babies.. rahhhhh. It's everywhere, they are everywhere! I don't need to know the daily inputs, I don't even remember their genders, and seriously, things they post are too private and too much information that it is dangerous especially when the profile is public. Gahhhhhhh!

(Call me bad person but I can't take it I can't take it!)

 

 

I admit I'm more in this camp. My friend has taken to sending me multiple pictures of her baby every day, and whilst yea, he's cute he's well... just like any other baby. 

 

The point about people putting on different personas is another reason I quit. Going by Facebook everyone is either borderline suicidal or has the best life in the world!!!!!! With an amazing social life, and hundreds of potential romantic partners clawing for their interest, and everything is super-duper amazingly awesome - when you know that person in real life and know that everything is just as normal and drudgery as everyone else's life. 

 

 

 

Oh.. I had bad introvert day yesterday. Went for grocery shopping and the place was full, long queue, people, people, people.. went hiding in coffee shop and the kid in the table next to us cried and screamed for more than half an hour. I..can't..

 

Days like that make me want to just go home and curl up in a ball.

[Van Buren Supernova]

I am standing in the airport waiting for my brother, trying to make myself bigger to create more personal space but those barbarians are either standing too close or practically leaning on me...^@$#&% while there are space behind just a bit further from the waiting line. When I said something they pretend not to hear or move a bit and then repeat. They are women, so maybe they think it's perfectly okay.^@%#%

How I wish I had taser gun..

[Pseudonym]

This reminds me of that episode of the Simpsons, where Lisa starts windmilling, and tells Bart if he gets hit it's his own fault for getting too close. Windmill, VBS, windmill like your life depends on it :D

[J.P.]

Start to cough and clean your nose. :D

[Boton]

 

 

 

The point about people putting on different personas is another reason I quit. Going by Facebook everyone is either borderline suicidal or has the best life in the world!!!!!! With an amazing social life, and hundreds of potential romantic partners clawing for their interest, and everything is super-duper amazingly awesome - when you know that person in real life and know that everything is just as normal and drudgery as everyone else's life. 

 

 

I have a number of colleagues who are extroverts in the extreme.  Most mornings, I will get at least one Facebook or Twitter post about how they are "super excited" for what they get to do that day, how they "can't wait to see what lies ahead," or how much they are "#blessed."  How is anyone that excited about anything first thing in the morning?

 

And today.  Oh, my gosh.  I've been having to make phone call after phone call all week long trying to line up some stuff for work projects, and I have another day of it.  I hate making phone calls. 

[Arcadia]

I agree, I think phone calls are what I dread most. Email has been my savior. (Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition! :d )

[Bluebell]

Me too, totally no phonecalls and no facebook, it's scary. Emails and text messages are great things. (or 'real' mail - I miss those sometimes. I used to have penpals who sent me cool things. Long ago...*sigh*)

 

The week was a bit stressful (just like last week), but I am looking forward to a hermit's day in my PJs tomorrow. Only me and the pets.

[hann156]

So nice to see that many people here are introverts too. Somehow I had a feeling that Sherlock fans tend to be introverts, don't know precisely why.

 

I have all my life felt that I am somehow "different" and felt also ashamed of my personality. It has felt sometimes that people around me would want to change my behavior. Now when I'm getting older I have learned to appreciate myself and trying not to think too much what other people think of me. It feels good to be myself.

 

I also hate phone calls and elevators, hahah! I wish that most of the connection between people would be writing, which is more natural way for me than speaking.

Fortunately, my home country is pretty introverted and don't appreciate smalltalk. I could only imagine how it would be to live as an introvert in USA or in middle Europe, where chitchatting is almost demanded from you.

[Pseudonym]

 

Fortunately, my home country is pretty introverted and don't appreciate smalltalk. I could only imagine how it would be to live as an introvert in USA or in middle Europe, where chitchatting is almost demanded from you.

 

Feel free not to answer if you prefer, but now I'm curious what country you're in?

[Arcadia]

Yeah, because all us introverts are moving there! :D
 
Seriously, being an introvert was tough as a kid because extroversion was considered "normal", not just by the other kids but also by adults. I can remember several adults who tried to "cure" my shyness. I don't know if it's still that way or not ... we have a broader definition of "normal" now than when I was a kid. At any rate, as an adult it's definitely easier to blend in when you want to, isn't it? And easier to get away from people, too.

[hann156]

 

 

Fortunately, my home country is pretty introverted and don't appreciate smalltalk. I could only imagine how it would be to live as an introvert in USA or in middle Europe, where chitchatting is almost demanded from you.

 

Feel free not to answer if you prefer, but now I'm curious what country you're in?

 

 

Feel free to ask, it's not a secret. I live in Finland, which is a really small country and somehow maybe because of the isolated location or whatever reasons, we tend to be introverts. In our culture it's polite not to ask too much or chitchat to strangers. But on the contrary, we are also socially awkward and have problems with conversations and social communication and as a result our country has a huge amount of mental diseases (depression, anxiety etc.). Maybe it's because we are often taught to keep things to myself and trying to cope with ourselves and not to ask help even when we definitely would need that. Things have opposite sides.

 

Yup, I think that it was really hard to be an introverted child, because it was considered abnormal for a child to just read and be with your own thoughts. Luckily, times have changed and it has been some discussions about introverts and highly sensitive persons in the media, so it's not so mysterious for the public anymore.

[Arcadia]

Also, you have long nights in winter, don't you? Are they doing research into light therapy for depression, I hope? Maybe I'll only move there for the summer.

[Pseudonym]

 

...as a result our country has a huge amount of mental diseases (depression, anxiety etc.). Maybe it's because we are often taught to keep things to myself and trying to cope with ourselves and not to ask help even when we definitely would need that. Things have opposite sides.

 

 

Aren't a lot of countries like that these days? Britain definitely is. I think it's just a symptom of modern society as people get increasingly disconnected from each other.

[Arcadia]

And also there's just more understanding of what mental illness is these days ... I think part of the increase is in recognizing what it is, not just that there's more of it. I hope so, anyway.

 

Not that modern society can't be isolating, but I'm actually more connected to people now than I used to be, when I had to rely on phone calls and letters to be in touch. Now my connections are just an email away. Not the same as face to face, but I was never that much into face to face interaction to begin with. Email was a godsend for someone like me ... I could stay in touch without having to actually interact!

[Pseudonym]

Definitely, I'd choose email over a phone call or having to meet face to face any day of the week. Like most of us on this thread :D

[hann156]

Also, you have long nights in winter, don't you? Are they doing research into light therapy for depression, I hope? Maybe I'll only move there for the summer.

 

Yes we have. On November the sun sets about 4 pm. so it definitely is depressing. On the contrary, on summer we have the so called "midsummer night" when the sun doesn't set at all. It is a bit weird!

 

And about the mental problems, yes I agree that the modern society is one of the main triggers for them. There are so many reasons and I think the biggest issues are that we, the social animals, are disconnected and isolated to little flats alone in the city and we aren't able to express ourselves in a natural way. This is one of the reasons I moved recently to the countryside, where you are free to do almost anything you want (have farm animals, grow plants, renovate old buildings etc.) Also everything is a lot more cheaper and you don't have to spend your time in restaurants, bars or another activities that require using money. There are also some downsides, for example distances are long (I have about 10 km to the nearest grocery store) and now when winter is getting closer it feels really dark and lonely sometimes. Still I haven't regretted my choice yet.

[Pseudonym]

I'd love to live out in the countryside away from everything. The city I live in in fairly small in comparison to most but I still get sick of the traffic and noise and sheer number of people. I nipped out of the house to get groceries on Sunday and came back home to find I had to park almost a mile away from my house because everywhere was packed with people going to the sports stadium I live near. Definitely enjoy my odd outings into the country!