I don’t know if it makes you feel better, or worse. From what I know, having children doesn’t guarantee this wouldn’t happen and that is, imho, a wrong reason to have children, whether it’s your own or someone you take responsibility with. I have seen many parents abandoned by their children or scammed for life only to be dumped when their money ran out. To me, it’s one of the most heartbreaking things that can happen, and this happened in a traditional culture setting while family is still a big part of life and kids are expected to take care of their parents and vice versa.
It was in the news not long ago, that a banker had a hunch not to authorized a transaction because she noticed this elderly man’s reluctancy to sign on the paper to empty his bank account. His daughter stood next to him and kept saying her father had dementia and they had agreed on that and she kept answering questions on his behalf etc etc. The banker decided to write the question down and asked the man to pick the answer about whether he wanted it to happen and he kept picking no. They had a talk and her daughter was arrested because she had been stealing his money. He was of sound mind, but never reported her because… she was his daughter. Another elderly parents were locked out of their own house after being tricked to sign a paper. All those shit.
Granted, good children exist but you know what I’m trying to say.
On the other hand, not everyone is fit to be a parent, it’s a crazy responsibility and a forever commitment. I applaud those who do it well, I think they are angels on earth. I really admire them. I don’t think I am capable to take that responsible of raising another human well and that was one of my reasons not to.
I spent my youth deflecting annoying questions of people asking me why I decided not to have children and their argument was who would take care of you when you are older? I told them to piss off and stick it when the sun don’t shine which I have learned it’s not real place because I was confused why people keep asking me to store stuff there when I live around equator.
Again, not sure if it’d make you feel better or worse, I believe this is an unspoken worries of everyone. Even those with loved ones. I stayed alone and apart from my spouse for 12 years now and there were times when I thought if I died he wouldn’t know and nobody would find me for a while because I don’t have close friends here. If I was in an accident on the road, who would feed my dog and rescue him? So, I made my preparation like telling my dog’s original grandma where I hide my key in the garden and his water bowl is always filled to the brim whenever I am out etc and I try not to think about it anymore. For me, it’s not a problem if I’m gone, I don’t think I will care when it happens, as long as they are well.
My favorite saying is death and stupidity wouldn’t be felt by you, but people around you.