Jump to content


Popular Content

Showing content with the highest reputation since 04/10/2020 in all areas

  1. 7 points
    Sorry you had such a bad experience. And good on you for being an out-and-proud bisexual. As to the question above, I'm a female gamer so, yeah, that's another surefire method to meet idiots online. And just for the record, I don't think anything like this is likely to happen here (we're small, quiet and friendly, fortunately) but I do have a banstick and neither me nor any other mod is going to hesitate should anyone have the bright idea to pull a stunt like that. Everyone should feel safe and welcome on this forum.
  2. 6 points
  3. 6 points
    Oh, no need for that if you ask me. As far as I can tell from history and anecdotes, average male behavior has actually improved over the past few decades, at least in this part of the world. And there have always been some good men, some horrible men and lots of perfectly ordinary men imho and same for women. Like I said before, it's not that hard not being a d****. Most of it is common sense. If you aren't participating in or encouraging vile behavior yourself, then I see no need to feel ashamed just because some people who also have a Y chromosome do. I certainly don't take responsibility for all the s*** that other women do either.
  4. 6 points
    I suspect that in many cases like you describe, the aggressor's (alleged?) faith is merely a front. I am married to a religious person and have fairly close contact with people of different religions. Some of these are pretty liberal, others not so much. I have great respect for religious convictions and the more they are in conflict with prevalent societal ideals the harder it must be for the people holding them to navigate the world with peace of mind. However, to my knowledge, no serious religion says "thou shalt harass", "thou shalt insult", "thou shalt threaten peoples lives" or "thou shalt hate". Does "where do you live I have a gun" dude seriously think his deity is proud of him? I doubt it. He probably just doesn't want to outright admit to being an asshole so he tries to somehow justify his behavior by throwing God in the mix. Good job quitting that place. I hope you find a nicer one.
  5. 6 points
    Can I just make a general comment with regards to this Topic? What worries and concerns me; having read these Posts so far; is the psychological and emotional damage that the insults, abuse, and threats, as described here, can have on the recipients of such nonsense!! Please just remember that everyone has a right to be just the way they are, and that no one has the right to judge or condemn anyone!!! So be proud of who you are!!! I believe that we're all meant to be brothers and sisters in this world!!
  6. 6 points
    Hi all, just dropping in to let you know I'm still around, just been super busy. FL, sorry to hear what you've been going through, I'm in a similar situation with someone who I once thought of as my best friend. I'd like to keep her in my life, but she's sure making it tough. I hope your situation resolves. It sounds to me like you're on the right track. Hope everyone is staying safe. I'll try to drop in more often, miss you all!
  7. 5 points
  8. 5 points
  9. 5 points
    Oh Lord... I'm late to the, um, can you even call this a party? But whatever. I just read that article and it seemed to me as if the author never really watched Sherlock. First of all, BBC Sherlock certainly does not let the main character's attitude go "unchallenged", in fact, a massive point is made of him being a huge dick and as the story progresses, the disadvantages of that and the effects on himself as well as literally everyone else he cares for become more and more apparent until in the end, it's the stereotypically "feminine" values that Sherlock learns to embrace like love and compassion and making room for feelings in general that win the day, not Mycroft's "iceman" brain-cult. Secondly, "masculinity" is about the last word I would associate with this particular portrayal. I always feel as if the show would work just as well if the main character was female. This Sherlock comes across as very androgynous to me, that's one reason why I find him appealing I guess.
  10. 5 points
  11. 5 points
    Gaaah!! What is that!! Kill it! I think J.P is holding herself really well.
  12. 5 points
  13. 5 points
    One of our cats would wait till we were watching television, then walk over right in front of the TV and defecate on the carpet. We finally figured out that she simply wanted attention, but didn't know how to ask for it. So we started making a point of petting her whenever we passed by her, and she went right back to using the litter box. I believe I've seen that, yes. It's like, "hey, I'm making a point here!" I think it still works, but you may need more points in your favor. Like the time a guy had really pissed me off. I didn't want to throw the first punch, but was almost hoping that he would. Figured he wouldn't, though, because he's not only male, he's also twenty years younger than me, half a foot taller, weighs probably twice as much, and his hair is still dark (though frankly, I suspect he "touches it up"). So I didn't think he'd actually punch a "little old white-haired lady," because it'd make him look like a bully, and a foolish one at that. We stood nose to nose till a couple other guys pulled us apart, just like in the movies. It was pretty cool. Hopefully taking notes.
  14. 5 points
  15. 5 points
    Update: as expected I can't go to work temporarily, my internship isn't cancelled though, and my mother is recovering.
  16. 5 points
    So I have a girlfriend now and last month we celebrated our 2 month anniversary, and when we were dating I had to tell people I met someone, including people who I hadn't came out to. I genuinely forgot the anxiety when coming out, some didn't believe me. But sometimes it was amusing, then I had a conversation that went like this: "I met someone." "That's nice, where does he live?" "What kind of job does he has?" Is he older or younger than you?" and then finally "What's his name?" So I answered each question without using a pronoun, but when I said a girl's name seeing the penny drop was just priceless.
  17. 5 points
    Squeeee! Mycroft is BAAAAAACK! https://twitter.com/bbcsherlocktr/status/1286989797664477190?s=20
  18. 5 points
    Personally my religion doesn't allow for gays either. But people have to stop acting lik3 a gay person is gay, full stop. Yes, to some people gays are discomfiting. It's a fact. But totally disregarding that a gay person is a kind, funny person who likes pretzels or maybe kebabs isn't fair. God created gay people too. I'm going to be honest, I do read a lot of gay-themed Japanese manga and I'm a girl who fell for another girl at school (it lasted a year). And even tho there are people out there who cannot support gays all the way, everyone has been given the opportunity to live their own lives. And if we can't conform to their ideas and they can't conform to ours then that's not just okay; it's the most basic, ordinary thing a person can do; it's okay to think someone else has the wrong idea, it's not okay to think they're wrong as human beings. Even to religious ppl God doesn't need religion; if he'd wanted to he could have made being gay part of it. We have to stop ppl hating on gays just because but we can't be sure they'll ever really "like" them. And maybe that's alright too. I hate the tight, fitted clothing that most other girls, including my friends, wear. But that defntly does not mean that I hate them as ppl. I guess ideas are like clothes. One size doesn't fit all. That's how we are. It's what makes us different. It's human. Idk I dont really kno3 how to explain it better 😔
  19. 5 points
    Carol, blood tests are currently only used to see if people have antibodies against the virus, meaning their immune system has had contact with it at some point. To test for a current infection with the potential to pass the virus on to others, you do indeed take a swab from the pharynx, which you reach by either sticking the probe really far into the patient's nose or touching the inside of the throat through the mouth. It's unpleasant but usually not painful and certainly does not involve touching any part of the brain.
  20. 5 points
    Good heavens, you're right, that is an option -- but not a good one! Of course I could sign in from my Dabbler facebook page, but prefer to register with each site separately, just --- because. Yes, I assume it was something like that -- facebook or Twitter or whatever other site they'd joined by way of. But all I'm seeing at the moment on the All Activity list is forum-related stuff -- posts, likes, followings, and when Valkyrie changed her avatar a few days ago. No strangers, and like you say there used to be loads of them. I assume Tim's been busy. Thanks, Tim! Weird. But I guess I'm not surprised. I've noticed that a few men seem to bolster their egos by thinking that even though they may not be particularly great, well at least they're better than a WOMAN!!! And then you go and stomp on them. I don't know whether to snicker or feel sorry for them. Both, maybe.
  21. 5 points
    Put that on a t-shirt, Carol. I'd buy it.
  22. 5 points
    I think it's finally a good time for update. Anyway, around a week plus after this post, I continued to sneak in and feed her. She seemed happier that way, as after every visit, we both walked to different directions. Then one morning I went there, the entry point was properly closed and guarded, I asked permission to just come in and feed the dog, but rejected. That was end of April. I couldn't go in, I know no one, I had no idea if she is starving or not and I don't know what else I could do. For two and half months I drove there often, looking for a loophole or hoping that the closure would end soon (yes, the pandemic is still ongoing, but from the way people not doing proper social distancing and gather somewhere else, having the beach open could actually be a better solution, there are many beaches here and there are enough space for good social distancing practice) but it continued to close until end of last week, precisely Friday last week. As mentioned, this is not my regular beach anymore but I still come just for her. I had visited the other beach and found almost every dog. However, here, I couldn't find her on my first try. All other dogs on this beach that I know are also still here and well. But she is solitary dog and not young, could she survive without a pack, where is she? I came back again, and again, and again, walked the beach from dawn as I need to make time for work. I walked our regular spot, then further along the stretch, covering all areas we used to walk together, but no sight of her. I asked around, the local authority, the beach cleaner, they didn't know where she is. I even asked if they saw any dead dogs during the lockdown, but no. The cleaner who actually recognize me as someone who feed her, said they miss her too and haven't seen her since lockdown started. So I was devastated, of all the seven plus year I know her, we always find each other, except the one time in my previous story, and she always stays at the same place. I came back again the following dawn, and walked the beach all over again, it became harder everyday. A lot of what ifs, crazy thought and guilt. So much guilt. So many bad thoughts, so many regrets. I started to email, contact everyone I could think of, organization, someone I know who 'might' know someone that might know about the beach area. There was no result. Today I posted in multiple facebook group, eventhough I have little hope in them, but magically, after a mere couple of hours someone messaged me and told me that the dog is safe with her, she sent me pictures as well and invited me to meet them on the beach (too bad their timing is my working time but will work something out) (Update: I did! Thought of going on Sunday but couldn't wait! Went there yesterday, the day after I heard the news, I had to leave work early, quite early but I met her and she is alive and well!!!) I had been a mess these couple of days and tried to find a lot of distractions but my mood has completely changed. You have no idea how happy I am, and this is probably the best scenario I could ever dream of. So I promise to be in my best behaviour at least for these few days.. or hours... yay!!!!!! where is the vacuum cleaner I need to dance.
  23. 5 points
    Dear Valkyrie123, OK: Here's my one cent worth: That behaviour that you have copped is absolutely appalling!! There's no excuse for it, and sadly, there are a lot of Idiots in the world today!! I know it's hard; but try not to get too upset by thoughtless, insensitive, narrow-minded, insecure fools!!! You don't need that sort of nonsense in your life, and you certainly don't deserve it! This is a wonderful Forum here, with great and friendly Moderators, along with friendly members; so you're safe here with us! Take good care, and I'm so sorry that you have been subjected to the narrow-mindedness and stupidity of Morons! Kindest Regards and Best Wishes to you, Douglas xoxo
  24. 5 points
  25. 5 points
    Without context, that’s the weirdest question I’ve read in awhile, lol.
  26. 5 points
  27. 5 points
    Happy Star Wars Day to one and all -- May the Fourth be with you!!!
  28. 5 points
    I my opinion, it sounds like you did the only right thing in that situation. From personal experience and after some thought, my stance on that kind of situation is: people have a right to choose what they want to do with their life, even if that means they choose to get rid of it. They do not, however, have the right to burden me (or anybody else) with that decision. If anyone sends me a halfway believable suicide note, I will call an ambulance, period. If they aren't happy with that then don't send me the note. End of story. Only you can decide whether you can and want to forgive her and if you want to renew the friendship. Maybe make a list of pros and cons?
  29. 5 points
    What glue you are using? Mine keeps falling on my head it's not funny anymore. It's magic trick! And this must be moocat.
  30. 4 points
    These are awkwardly so relatable.
  31. 4 points
    Exactly. Works surprisingly well with the boys, especially circa S1. John: You saved me. I owe you my life. Sherlock: No thanks. I’ve seen it and I’m not very impressed.
  32. 4 points
    OK, so basically you pick the number of people and optionally give them names, then click the Generate button and it plugs your characters into a randomly selected joke -- or am I missing something? Yours is pretty good. Here's the best I've gotten so far: Kirk: Spock, what do IDK, LY, and TTYL mean? Spock: I don’t know, love you, talk to you later Kirk: Ok, I love you too, I’ll just ask McCoy. I may have just discovered the true origin of slash fanfic!
  33. 4 points
    You guys have to bear with it. My lazyness.exe refuses to open the laptop to do anything with the stolen turkey, and I don't want to attempt it with my phone, this is how I ended up last time I tried. Flat tire in Alaska.
  34. 4 points
    It is necessary. It will prevent him from holding any position in politics, and from trying to go for 2024 election. It strips him from his Ex-President salaries, security and so on. It would prevent him from doing something stupid until end of his term. But since he's gone from SM, nobody knows what he's up to - and it feels a bit uncomfortable.
  35. 4 points
    Happy Birthday to Mr Holmes and a Happy New Year to all.👍
  36. 4 points
    Happy New Year to all and let’s dump 2020 into the dustbin of history. New Year, new start. The Game’s Afoot!😃
  37. 4 points
    Regarding the advantage of a desktop over a laptop (for me, anyway): (1) larger monitor [I have a 21 inch], (2) I could never get the hang of the mousepad on a laptop [I like a regular mouse], (3) a regular keyboard is much more comfortable over a laptop keyboard, (4) I don't need portability. Any need I would have for a computer can darn well wait until I get home. I don't want to be tethered to a gadget. There are probably more, but that's it off the top of my head.
  38. 4 points
    I'd be the same way if I'd dropped my computer and had to use my phone!
  39. 4 points
    I found this, I laughed way to hard at it
  40. 4 points
    Re: the dying from COVID vs. dying with COVID: If you die in a car accident, it doesn't matter that your heart was too weak to deal with the blood loss, or if broken bones caused fat embolism, or if your brain swelled in your crushed skull until the blood stopped to circulate. You die because you were in a car accident, no matter how your health was before. You would still be alive without that accident. The same is for Corona imo. BTW, the more we know about the virus, the darker it gets. It does not only wreaks havoc in your system if you were seriously ill. There is also long term damage - to your heart, your blood vessels, your kidneys, even to your brain, and that also applies to people who were hardly sick, or even not sick at all. I'm afraid we are in deep trouble.
  41. 4 points
    Unbelievable, is it? And we have got a little present:
  42. 4 points
    Of course it's ok to post that! Especially in this thread. I think lots of people have similar experiences with elderly relatives but few are as honest about it as you seem here, even with themselves. We often feel like we must love a person because we are related but shared genes don't always have that effect. For example, I had a very different relationship with my two grandmothers. One I absolutely adored and I was devastated when she died to the point that some people thought I was faking it for attention because loss of a grandparent shouldn't be that hard. The other grandmother I never managed to love. I really tried but aside from the general "love thy neighbor" type of love I can usually muster for anyone, no personal affection ever happened and when she left this world, I actually felt relieved and nothing more. It's great that you visited him anyway even though you could have used the time for yourself. He probably appreciated it, don't you think?
  43. 4 points
    THIS. I think it's safe to say that there are many gentlemen out there, and they make up for it. At the very least, I believe quite a big percentage of those online jerks don't actually behave that way in real life. Most people wouldn't say what they said online in real life. There are something about anonymity that brings out the worse version of us, in a weird way they feel some kind of power to do things they are too coward to do without much consequences. Little thing that we could get from this, I guess we have to be grateful that we feel secure and confident enough as human being in order not to do the same. It takes a lot to be 'real' nowadays in both online and real life persona. If you think you are one of them, be proud of the confidence! As non Star Trek fan, I thought it's the other way around, especially nowadays when 'nerdiness' is cherished or even cool. I never get the hype, but I think there is nothing wrong, I make fun of it sometimes but I'd never think they are losers, actually it's quite awesome that there is this community of hardcore fans. Hey, switch it to something else that I like and I behave exactly that way too.
  44. 4 points
    If you have to replace your toilet seat don't do it halfway man
  45. 4 points
  46. 4 points
    HI Douglas and all, sorry for your lost. I'm really lucky that I have all those that I love who are the most significant still around me but I'm worried about them all the time. Like to think that I'm a strong person, but the reality is that I'm a big coward dreading the days, even robbing me of current happiness because I can't help to not think about it. Every new year, as long as I have roof over my head, I don't really care whether how much stuff I have or I have not, but I'm always grateful that they are still around, for that is all that matters. For them it's too late, but it's very hard for me to get close with new people as I don't want to add them to my list of worries. Lately I have less selfish thought, maybe. My habit is always to leave before being left, as it's easier for me, I practice that in relationships and works and I always leave early. I have same thinking about life that I'd rather go first, no, not unnatural way of going, as in I'd rather my time comes first. But maybe I have grown a bit to think that it's too selfish, as I imagine people like my parents, SO or my dog would be devastated. This actually helps to reduce my worries by 1%.. I think it's part of me, the fear attached that I would never able to shake off. I thought it would be nice to be emotion free people like Sherlock and Mycroft, but apparently they are not spared too. As for this forum, yes! I was also surprised with possitivity of this forum, it's like different part of internet. In fact, I have shared stuff that I never shared in real life, like above, and my love for singing eventhough I have horrible voice and my love for cake. Maybe I have to silent all of you one day, buy for now, It's warm and cozy here. 😜
  47. 4 points
    Hi all, just reporting in. At the moment, I'm in limbo with the sale of the house ... the inspection report was about 20 pages long, and the buyer's rep asked me to fix every little thing they marked down. Some things I've agreed to (e.g., two of the electrical outlets aren't wired properly ... although we've been using them for 40 years without a problem, but hey) ... some are ridiculous .... they want me to replace every window in the house because, surprisingly enough, they're 40 years old. I laughed at that one ... ain't gonna happen. The yard's been destroyed (again) from trying to find problems with the septic system even though it's obviously working fine. Yadda yadda. I'm learning to really hate the realty business. Meanwhile, the temporary quarters I'm supposed to move into are nowhere near ready, and in fact is probably the filthiest place I have ever had the displeasure to be in. I thought I'd finally finished with heavy duty cleaning when I put this house on the market, now I'm faced with even heavier duty cleaning. Spent last Wednesday out there and managed to clear the trash out of one room, but the whole place needs a good scrubbing. Meanwhile, I spend about half of every day packing boxes and taking stuff to the dump, and the other half pulling wild onions out of the yard. I hate to say it, but this COVID business has been a godsend for me ... if I'd had to do all this AND teach every day, I'd be in the loony bin by now. I don't know how my parents went through this every couple of years. Well .... for one thing, Dad's employers paid people to do a lot of the packing and moving and cleaning and storing. Still .... ugh. I'm supposed to be moved out by the 30th, assuming the sale actually goes through. And I'll start teaching again on the 28th. I have to wear a mask and gloves and stay 6 feet away from my students while my co-worker points a camera at me so they can see what I'm doing. THAT's going to be an ... interesting ... week. On the bright side ... I am now a land owner! Two itty bitty lots in the woods near a lake upon which, someday and God willing, I shall have my very own little itty bitty house. The builder keeps saying they'll have me in by November, but I have my doubts ... based solely on the fact that every person I meet says "no way" they can build a house that quickly. Meanwhile, a McMansion down the road from me has gone up practically overnight. I really don't understand the universe.
  48. 4 points
    Hello, Sveva, and welcome to Sherlock Forum! It's especially nice when a new member posts interesting questions! Doyle's Moriarty did not reappear (though he might have been referred to in later stories) -- Holmes reported that he saw the villain fall into a raging waterfall, so that was the end of him. Holmes was, however, concerned about Moriarty's henchmen, and spent the next few years dealing with them. Besleybean is correct, there is no Eurus in Doyle's stories. She is, however, based (very loosely) on a few things from those stories and from old fan tradition: The name of the facility where Eurus lives, Sherrinford, was one of the names that Doyle had thought of using for his detective, before settling on Sherlock instead. Some fans of his stories later used "Sherrinford" as the name of a hypothetical third Holmes brother. Near the end of the episode "His Last Vow," Mycroft tells Sir Edwin, "I am not given to outbursts of brotherly compassion; you know what happened to the other one," thus leading fans of the show to expect a third brother (or a sister). Then early in "The Lying Detective," Lady Smallwood asks Mycroft, "Do you still speak to Sherrinford?" -- thus leading us to believe that the show is following fan tradition regarding a third brother's name. But then of course Sherrinford turns out to be a place rather than a person, and the brother is actually a sister. Her name, Eurus, which is the name of the Greek god of the east wind, was apparently inspired by a line from Doyle's story "His Last Bow," in which Holmes tells Watson "... there's an east wind coming...." in reference to the approach of World War I. This line is quoted or paraphrased several times in series 3 and 4. Again, welcome, Sveva! We hope you stick around and post more questions or comments. Please feel free to post in any existing threads or start more new ones.
  49. 4 points
    My personal opinion is that there will never be any such thing as "the end of racism". Not totally. It could improve, and we should never stop striving towards that; but it will always exist to some degree, along with sexism, poverty, rape, murder, et. al. I think a major part of the problem, in cases like these, is special protection/privileges and a double standard for police which allows them to act as though they are immune to the law. Police should be (and in many cases are) trained to preserve human life above all else, in every interaction; but as long as positions of authority exist, they will attract people who seek to exert power over others. There should be strong and immediate penalties for those who abuse that. Too often abuse of power is met with a slap on the wrist, or ignored entirely. Derek Chauvin had a long history of conduct complaints against him that should have been addressed long ago. Law enforcement requires reform in many respects which is long past due, and I think it'd be a good idea to start by focusing on that, which is something that can be changed, instead of trying to make racists less racist, which is just going to end with heads banging against walls. There should be outrage about the death of George Floyd, and protests are most certainly warranted. However, burning cities down is not the way to go about it. Not only is it detracting from the real issue, it's hurting those who were already the most vulnerable people in the community. Many of the neighborhoods being set aflame belong to the lower-income population, and the businesses burning are the businesses that serve them and employ them. Many of those are small, family-owned businesses that individuals spent a lifetime building. Some people are losing their only means of transportation when their cars get burned. People are getting injured and killed. People are scared. We were already struggling with severe hardship here from having so many businesses closed due to the pandemic. Now many of those businesses are razed to the ground, which means even fewer jobs returning when the economy reopens. And guess who will bear the economic burden of rebuilding? People who pay taxes, that's who. We are in serious trouble and this wanton destruction is accomplishing absolutely nothing positive. No one wants to have a conversation with the person holding a torch to their home or livelihood. It should be said that I don't know how many of the people participating in this can even be called "protesters" anymore. I think many are just taking advantage of the situation to vent some rage and steal stuff. I've also been hearing that many are coming from outside the state, as well as from other "movements", to fan the flames. Apparently there are drug cartels moving in as well. I don't know how much of that is confirmed, but in Detroit, Michigan, where they actually bothered to arrest some rioters, about 3/4 of them were outsiders. To those people in Minnesota, I would really like to say, get the f*ck out of my town.
  50. 4 points
    At irregular intervals along our highways, usually attached to overpasses above the road, there are signs that can be electronically altered from a central location. There's one between here and Indianapolis that's recently been reading something like this: ESSENTIAL TRAVEL ONLY STAY AT HOME SLOW DOWN But today it read: MAY THE FOURTH BE WITH YOU SLOW DOWN YOU MUST .
  • Newsletter

    Want to keep up to date with all our latest news and information?
    Sign Up
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of UseWe have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.Privacy PolicyGuidelines.