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  1. 7 points
    Sorry you had such a bad experience. And good on you for being an out-and-proud bisexual. As to the question above, I'm a female gamer so, yeah, that's another surefire method to meet idiots online. And just for the record, I don't think anything like this is likely to happen here (we're small, quiet and friendly, fortunately) but I do have a banstick and neither me nor any other mod is going to hesitate should anyone have the bright idea to pull a stunt like that. Everyone should feel safe and welcome on this forum.
  2. 7 points
    Don't throw things at me (but if you must, fresh produces only please), I really only ship Sherlock with his detective life/everlasting thirst of knowledge. It's not that I feel represented, as that is not my current path, but it's good to know that it is an alright way of living and existing, and there is equal happiness to that despite the normal 'normal'. And who is the best in that except Sherlock who has existed for more than a century, I think that what makes him special, and that what makes me like the series. But feel free to ship, who knows, you might change my mind.
  3. 6 points
    Oh, no need for that if you ask me. As far as I can tell from history and anecdotes, average male behavior has actually improved over the past few decades, at least in this part of the world. And there have always been some good men, some horrible men and lots of perfectly ordinary men imho and same for women. Like I said before, it's not that hard not being a d****. Most of it is common sense. If you aren't participating in or encouraging vile behavior yourself, then I see no need to feel ashamed just because some people who also have a Y chromosome do. I certainly don't take responsibility for all the s*** that other women do either.
  4. 6 points
    I suspect that in many cases like you describe, the aggressor's (alleged?) faith is merely a front. I am married to a religious person and have fairly close contact with people of different religions. Some of these are pretty liberal, others not so much. I have great respect for religious convictions and the more they are in conflict with prevalent societal ideals the harder it must be for the people holding them to navigate the world with peace of mind. However, to my knowledge, no serious religion says "thou shalt harass", "thou shalt insult", "thou shalt threaten peoples lives" or "thou shalt hate". Does "where do you live I have a gun" dude seriously think his deity is proud of him? I doubt it. He probably just doesn't want to outright admit to being an asshole so he tries to somehow justify his behavior by throwing God in the mix. Good job quitting that place. I hope you find a nicer one.
  5. 6 points
    Can I just make a general comment with regards to this Topic? What worries and concerns me; having read these Posts so far; is the psychological and emotional damage that the insults, abuse, and threats, as described here, can have on the recipients of such nonsense!! Please just remember that everyone has a right to be just the way they are, and that no one has the right to judge or condemn anyone!!! So be proud of who you are!!! I believe that we're all meant to be brothers and sisters in this world!!
  6. 6 points
    Hi all, just dropping in to let you know I'm still around, just been super busy. FL, sorry to hear what you've been going through, I'm in a similar situation with someone who I once thought of as my best friend. I'd like to keep her in my life, but she's sure making it tough. I hope your situation resolves. It sounds to me like you're on the right track. Hope everyone is staying safe. I'll try to drop in more often, miss you all!
  7. 6 points
    Thanks! Actually, they do show it. What I hear most often is "aren't you afraid?" No, tbh, I am not. Concerned, worried, tense, yes. But not scared. If I catch the virus, it's very very likely that I won't become severely ill. The same for my husband and son and we're keeping everyone else at a distance. My greatest fear is passing it on to a friend patient unknowingly. But right now, we still have plenty of disinfectant and masks, gloves etc and medical staff are always eligible for testing so I hope that can be prevented. We'll be alright.
  8. 6 points
    Those places are funny... Not. Imagine people not daring to go get care because they don't have a mask! Where I work, we try to provide those simple face masks for patients with symptoms as best we can. We have a minimum of protective gear for ourselves and are re-using as much as we possibly can without being totally unsanitary. If you don't have anything to cover your nose and mouth, just go wherever you absolutely need to go and keep your distance from unprotected people. Cough into your arm and avoid touching things. If possible, call the practice etc in advance, maybe they can arrange something like meet you at your car or refer you to an infection center. Stay safe everyone. P.S.: sorry I haven't been posting, I work in healthcare and things have been crazy what with flexible working hours, rules and regulations changing daily and having to improvise child care because obviously daycare is closed. Hip hip hurray. Not complaining though, I am honestly greatful that at least I get to keep my job.
  9. 6 points
    I hope you guys are holding up well. Thing has been affecting me a little bit differently. My SO is staying in different countries, so is the rest of my core family, even the one in the same country are separated by flights. Last week, he was supposed to be here for one and half week but the trip was cancelled last minute because of restrictions on both sides. We cancelled it first for precaution, as the plane he was supposed to take was coming from badly hit Europe, also with other consideration that he might be put on two weeks quarantine on each side, ton of paperworks and it would be problematic with work. Apparently even if he didn't cancel, the flight was also suspended. I have to be grateful that at least we are okay for now, but I was just feeling really down that time. We have been looking forward to meet and I need his support here. The mellow hours had passed, now we are just keeping each other's spirit high, although I can't help to think when we could actually meet again. Now is even stricter than last week. But again, nothing to complain about as long as we are well. With these restriction, I am more aware than ever that I actually staying in a place where I have zero real friends. I have distanced and limited myself so much all my connections here are strictly professional. I'm not sure I regret anything, it's just something that I think of, so I actually have no one that can visit me anytime if I got into trouble, since people I care about and vice versa are all thousand of miles away, and with lockdown and all, it feels like we are staying in different planet. But not too worry, I'm in good relation with my dog's original family, they are the only people who know where I live (Geez I have no idea I'm this successful in hermit-ing myself, but again, wouldn't change a thing). Not sure if social distancing works around here. Just couple of days ago I saw people grouping on the street, not for something important but part of die-hard local life. There are measures taken, hopefully it's taken seriously. Food and necessity supplies are okay here, I haven't seen hoarding the last time I bought grocery, no panic buying eventhough the queue were much longer. Medical supplies like face mask and hand sanitizer hasn't been seen since forever though. There haven't been business restrictions, I think majority of business are still open as usual, but haven't been going around for a week, not sure if things has changed. Haven't visited my regular beaches, can't help to think how the strays are doing if everyone stop the visit to feed them. And if the surrounding food businesses are closed, how would they find any food? As you guys, I am more terrified with the social and economy impact. I had experienced the ugliness of humanity when it was pushed to breaking point, I hope it doesn't come to that. It's worrisome to read the news about India couple of days ago when some of the locked-down citizens didn't even know about Covid-19, and many are surviving on daily wage that goes non-existent. For every panic buying, there are those who can't even afford tomorrow's food. Haiz. Take good care guys, be safe!
  10. 6 points
    😅 When I entered the Sherlock fandom (my first fandom ever and so far the only one I have actively participated in), I had no clue what shipping meant and when I found out, I thought it was the silliest thing I ever heard of. Until I realized that I had been doing it all my life to the characters in my favorite books. I think I began to begrudgingly ship Sherlock and John after / during series 3. I didn't want to but there was just so much romance in there that I finally gave up and gave in and by now, I have made my peace with that. It's a pretty platonic ship in my case though that was perfectly satisfied with the way the show ended. I like to think of Sherlock Holmes as married to his work and while maybe not exactly asexual, little interested in sex beyond perhaps an annual meeting with Irene Adler that's probably more about the thrill of danger than anything else. But I have come to see the series as a love story nonetheless and greatly enjoy it as such - all the more that I know for sure now that everything will be right in the end. I think blowing up 221b was cheesy and over the top but totally worth it just to see John actively helping to restore it to just the way it was before, thus finally admitting and accepting that he goes there not because he has no better alternative but because he likes it and he likes crazy old Sherlock too with his fridge full of body parts and his skull and his moods and everything. I thought John and Mary's relationship was interesting too. It made John look pretty bad at times though imho. The way the show exalted Mary got on my nerves big time but she was a cool character.
  11. 6 points
    Happy holidays from a 48-year-old woman who's really looking forward to Disney Day coming up on TV. Never apologize for the things you love.
  12. 6 points
    Not expecting much sympathy for this because I know that few of you have or want kids but: The other day, I got fast food downtown in the afternoon because I had had no lunch break at work and no time between the end of my shift and picking my son up at daycare. He wanted to try, so I stuffed a few wok noodles in his mouth. And this very overdressed woman in her 60s stopped, frowned at me and remarked: "I always cooked for my children!" Yeah. Good for you. Let me guess though: you didn't have a job while yours were little and / or you had a housekeeper, maybe even a Nanny. I cook as much as I f...ing can but some days, I feel lucky that I find time to go to the bathroom. I wish people would not randomly criticize a complete stranger's parenting, especially when the kid isn't bothering anyone. I don't go around shoving baby photos in everyone's face demanding attention and I don't let him annoy people and in return I would really like me and my offspring to be left in peace too.
  13. 6 points
  14. 5 points
    So I have a girlfriend now and last month we celebrated our 2 month anniversary, and when we were dating I had to tell people I met someone, including people who I hadn't came out to. I genuinely forgot the anxiety when coming out, some didn't believe me. But sometimes it was amusing, then I had a conversation that went like this: "I met someone." "That's nice, where does he live?" "What kind of job does he has?" Is he older or younger than you?" and then finally "What's his name?" So I answered each question without using a pronoun, but when I said a girl's name seeing the penny drop was just priceless.
  15. 5 points
    I think it was JP who mentioned she was rewatching Sherlock, so I thought I would too. Then it occurred to me maybe some people might like to discuss their reactions to the show after not seeing it for awhile. So here's a thread for that!
  16. 5 points
    Squeeee! Mycroft is BAAAAAACK! https://twitter.com/bbcsherlocktr/status/1286989797664477190?s=20
  17. 5 points
    Personally my religion doesn't allow for gays either. But people have to stop acting lik3 a gay person is gay, full stop. Yes, to some people gays are discomfiting. It's a fact. But totally disregarding that a gay person is a kind, funny person who likes pretzels or maybe kebabs isn't fair. God created gay people too. I'm going to be honest, I do read a lot of gay-themed Japanese manga and I'm a girl who fell for another girl at school (it lasted a year). And even tho there are people out there who cannot support gays all the way, everyone has been given the opportunity to live their own lives. And if we can't conform to their ideas and they can't conform to ours then that's not just okay; it's the most basic, ordinary thing a person can do; it's okay to think someone else has the wrong idea, it's not okay to think they're wrong as human beings. Even to religious ppl God doesn't need religion; if he'd wanted to he could have made being gay part of it. We have to stop ppl hating on gays just because but we can't be sure they'll ever really "like" them. And maybe that's alright too. I hate the tight, fitted clothing that most other girls, including my friends, wear. But that defntly does not mean that I hate them as ppl. I guess ideas are like clothes. One size doesn't fit all. That's how we are. It's what makes us different. It's human. Idk I dont really kno3 how to explain it better 😔
  18. 5 points
    Carol, blood tests are currently only used to see if people have antibodies against the virus, meaning their immune system has had contact with it at some point. To test for a current infection with the potential to pass the virus on to others, you do indeed take a swab from the pharynx, which you reach by either sticking the probe really far into the patient's nose or touching the inside of the throat through the mouth. It's unpleasant but usually not painful and certainly does not involve touching any part of the brain.
  19. 5 points
    Good heavens, you're right, that is an option -- but not a good one! Of course I could sign in from my Dabbler facebook page, but prefer to register with each site separately, just --- because. Yes, I assume it was something like that -- facebook or Twitter or whatever other site they'd joined by way of. But all I'm seeing at the moment on the All Activity list is forum-related stuff -- posts, likes, followings, and when Valkyrie changed her avatar a few days ago. No strangers, and like you say there used to be loads of them. I assume Tim's been busy. Thanks, Tim! Weird. But I guess I'm not surprised. I've noticed that a few men seem to bolster their egos by thinking that even though they may not be particularly great, well at least they're better than a WOMAN!!! And then you go and stomp on them. I don't know whether to snicker or feel sorry for them. Both, maybe.
  20. 5 points
    Put that on a t-shirt, Carol. I'd buy it.
  21. 5 points
    I think it's finally a good time for update. Anyway, around a week plus after this post, I continued to sneak in and feed her. She seemed happier that way, as after every visit, we both walked to different directions. Then one morning I went there, the entry point was properly closed and guarded, I asked permission to just come in and feed the dog, but rejected. That was end of April. I couldn't go in, I know no one, I had no idea if she is starving or not and I don't know what else I could do. For two and half months I drove there often, looking for a loophole or hoping that the closure would end soon (yes, the pandemic is still ongoing, but from the way people not doing proper social distancing and gather somewhere else, having the beach open could actually be a better solution, there are many beaches here and there are enough space for good social distancing practice) but it continued to close until end of last week, precisely Friday last week. As mentioned, this is not my regular beach anymore but I still come just for her. I had visited the other beach and found almost every dog. However, here, I couldn't find her on my first try. All other dogs on this beach that I know are also still here and well. But she is solitary dog and not young, could she survive without a pack, where is she? I came back again, and again, and again, walked the beach from dawn as I need to make time for work. I walked our regular spot, then further along the stretch, covering all areas we used to walk together, but no sight of her. I asked around, the local authority, the beach cleaner, they didn't know where she is. I even asked if they saw any dead dogs during the lockdown, but no. The cleaner who actually recognize me as someone who feed her, said they miss her too and haven't seen her since lockdown started. So I was devastated, of all the seven plus year I know her, we always find each other, except the one time in my previous story, and she always stays at the same place. I came back again the following dawn, and walked the beach all over again, it became harder everyday. A lot of what ifs, crazy thought and guilt. So much guilt. So many bad thoughts, so many regrets. I started to email, contact everyone I could think of, organization, someone I know who 'might' know someone that might know about the beach area. There was no result. Today I posted in multiple facebook group, eventhough I have little hope in them, but magically, after a mere couple of hours someone messaged me and told me that the dog is safe with her, she sent me pictures as well and invited me to meet them on the beach (too bad their timing is my working time but will work something out) (Update: I did! Thought of going on Sunday but couldn't wait! Went there yesterday, the day after I heard the news, I had to leave work early, quite early but I met her and she is alive and well!!!) I had been a mess these couple of days and tried to find a lot of distractions but my mood has completely changed. You have no idea how happy I am, and this is probably the best scenario I could ever dream of. So I promise to be in my best behaviour at least for these few days.. or hours... yay!!!!!! where is the vacuum cleaner I need to dance.
  22. 5 points
    Dear Valkyrie123, OK: Here's my one cent worth: That behaviour that you have copped is absolutely appalling!! There's no excuse for it, and sadly, there are a lot of Idiots in the world today!! I know it's hard; but try not to get too upset by thoughtless, insensitive, narrow-minded, insecure fools!!! You don't need that sort of nonsense in your life, and you certainly don't deserve it! This is a wonderful Forum here, with great and friendly Moderators, along with friendly members; so you're safe here with us! Take good care, and I'm so sorry that you have been subjected to the narrow-mindedness and stupidity of Morons! Kindest Regards and Best Wishes to you, Douglas xoxo
  23. 5 points
  24. 5 points
    Without context, that’s the weirdest question I’ve read in awhile, lol.
  25. 5 points
  26. 5 points
    Happy Star Wars Day to one and all -- May the Fourth be with you!!!
  27. 5 points
    I my opinion, it sounds like you did the only right thing in that situation. From personal experience and after some thought, my stance on that kind of situation is: people have a right to choose what they want to do with their life, even if that means they choose to get rid of it. They do not, however, have the right to burden me (or anybody else) with that decision. If anyone sends me a halfway believable suicide note, I will call an ambulance, period. If they aren't happy with that then don't send me the note. End of story. Only you can decide whether you can and want to forgive her and if you want to renew the friendship. Maybe make a list of pros and cons?
  28. 5 points
    What glue you are using? Mine keeps falling on my head it's not funny anymore. It's magic trick! And this must be moocat.
  29. 5 points
    Mycroft can learn a language in 1-2 days. Probably all Wikipedia is written by him.
  30. 5 points
    Currently on Shark Week (49 and I still get it like clockwork every four weeks ) and just stumbled over this, truer words never spoken:
  31. 5 points
    We are not the only species who suck at our job.
  32. 5 points
    Least favorite, lol, there's a concept. I'll have to ponder on that one. Favorite: Ummm… I'll start with one I saw just recently: "It’s not a pleasant thought, John, but I have this terrible feeling, from time to time, that we might all just be human." "Even you?" "No. Even you." From The Lying Detective. I love how that episode ultimately turns out to be about John.
  33. 5 points
    My ship is friendship.
  34. 5 points
    NOPE. They go, or I'd go. We lived in rat infested house and I wasn't feeling anything back then. Now they are my mortal enemy, as I can't stand the thought of them being around my food or just around. Now I keep everything, I mean everything, including dishes, bottled condiments, fruits etc in closed cupboard, container or tupperware. I think it helps because they might be less attracted to invade the house without food smells, haven't seen any for a long time, and not planning to. Not taking chances, I think my self-diagnosed OCD is getting worse by age. Yes, I have countless of dog photos doing that, but I'm too lazy to look for it. My phone is exploding, even with 64 + 128G storage I can't contain the number of dog photos I take. Dogs, dogs, dogs, dogs! I even have to delete Sherlock that I always carry in my phone. And it's extremely difficult and time wasting to go through every single one and choose which one to delete. As moving it to computer, I can't bear not having them ready for access anytime. So I have... to.. sort.. them... it probably takes 237 years and my only motivation is because I want to take new ones. Anyway, be careful guys, there are more and more mythical animals comes to live.
  35. 5 points
    Yay Fantasy! Good luck to you both. My biggest risk was when I decided to stop trying to have a "normal" job and become self-employed, and pursue my art. That led me to a very unique career, teaching at a non-profit arts center, which suits me perfectly. I'm poor, but enjoying my life.
  36. 5 points
    Me and my best friend are a couple now, it's going to take some time getting used to it, considering we've know each other for years.
  37. 4 points
    Carol, I suspect you tend to assume that most people are reasonable and sane like you. I would like to think the same and I usually try to stick to this approach as well but over the last few years, I have had to learn (reluctantly) that there comes a point where I have to draw the line. And what to do about those who try to replace knowledge with belief? Like "but I believe the earth is flat and I have a right to that belief". Um, yeah, sure you do, go right ahead, but don't expect me to dignify this belief with a serious discussion. I'm perfectly willing to discuss evidence and data and sources and probabilities, but just "I believe" - what am I supposed to do with that?
  38. 4 points
  39. 4 points
    Irene may challenge Sherlock but he could never really trust her. She did nothing but manipulate, lie to and belittle him until he unlocked her phone and she lost her leverage. Then she turned on the tears and played the poor me card. And don't forget Molly has struck Sherlock, repeatedly, and called him on his crap more than once. She was also the one he conjured up when he was shot to help him save his life. But I have to agree that it will never happen, with either one.
  40. 4 points
    Only just thought to say... had a laugh with my daughter: every time I come back home, having left the dog alone...my deerstalker has moved! My daughter thinks the dog is secretly cosplaying Sherlock Holmes, everytime she is alone! Presumably as in 'The Hound of the Baskervilles'. Ha!
  41. 4 points
    Hi all, just reporting in. At the moment, I'm in limbo with the sale of the house ... the inspection report was about 20 pages long, and the buyer's rep asked me to fix every little thing they marked down. Some things I've agreed to (e.g., two of the electrical outlets aren't wired properly ... although we've been using them for 40 years without a problem, but hey) ... some are ridiculous .... they want me to replace every window in the house because, surprisingly enough, they're 40 years old. I laughed at that one ... ain't gonna happen. The yard's been destroyed (again) from trying to find problems with the septic system even though it's obviously working fine. Yadda yadda. I'm learning to really hate the realty business. Meanwhile, the temporary quarters I'm supposed to move into are nowhere near ready, and in fact is probably the filthiest place I have ever had the displeasure to be in. I thought I'd finally finished with heavy duty cleaning when I put this house on the market, now I'm faced with even heavier duty cleaning. Spent last Wednesday out there and managed to clear the trash out of one room, but the whole place needs a good scrubbing. Meanwhile, I spend about half of every day packing boxes and taking stuff to the dump, and the other half pulling wild onions out of the yard. I hate to say it, but this COVID business has been a godsend for me ... if I'd had to do all this AND teach every day, I'd be in the loony bin by now. I don't know how my parents went through this every couple of years. Well .... for one thing, Dad's employers paid people to do a lot of the packing and moving and cleaning and storing. Still .... ugh. I'm supposed to be moved out by the 30th, assuming the sale actually goes through. And I'll start teaching again on the 28th. I have to wear a mask and gloves and stay 6 feet away from my students while my co-worker points a camera at me so they can see what I'm doing. THAT's going to be an ... interesting ... week. On the bright side ... I am now a land owner! Two itty bitty lots in the woods near a lake upon which, someday and God willing, I shall have my very own little itty bitty house. The builder keeps saying they'll have me in by November, but I have my doubts ... based solely on the fact that every person I meet says "no way" they can build a house that quickly. Meanwhile, a McMansion down the road from me has gone up practically overnight. I really don't understand the universe.
  42. 4 points
  43. 4 points
    Of course it is. It just depend on your definition of "love".
  44. 4 points
  45. 4 points
    Hello 123 and welcome to the forum! Only ship I can really claim to be a passenger of is Molstrade, but I'll happily go down with it.
  46. 4 points
    Okay. The electrons were having a party, when without warning a bunch of protons came and attacked them. Just as suddenly, a hero arrived and saved the electrons. Amazed and grateful, the electrons cried, "Thank you, thank you! But who are you ??" The hero replied: . . . "Bond. Covalent Bond." (Hey, don't blame me, I don't write this stuff, I just steal it off the internet.)
  47. 4 points
    My Christmas card this year, starring my cat, Pepper. Hope you all had a good one!
  48. 4 points
  49. 4 points
    Hi all. I finally got around to buying the Holmes And Watson movie as I saw it for sale on a market stall for £1. To be honest, I suspect that it was in the wrong pile as £1 is way too cheap for such a relatively recent movie. I ignored the critics who appear to have been 100% negative and approached the movie to with as near an open mind as I could muster. And so here’s my review.........it’s crap! To be fair, there were a few bits that made me smile but that was it. Will Ferrell was just irritating as Holmes and John C Reilly was as bad (after his great performance as Oliver Hardy too) I can now look forward to buying Sherlock Gnolmes knowing that it simply cant be as bad as this. It was a missed opportunity too as the Holmes/Watson partnership is pretty ripe for a comedy version but it needed better writing than this. As an aside, I don’t know if anyone else has seen this but it’s a very short trailer for the Moftiss Dracula. Looks like they’ve gone for a traditional take (Lugosi/Lee) rather than a modern take or indeed an super accurate version of the original book. I’m quite looking forward to it and there’s no sign of Will Ferrell in the cast list. https://www.cbr.com/bbc-first-trailer-sherlock-creators-dracula-adaptation/amp/
  50. 4 points
    The same is usually told to singles. I mean, WHEN should one be hellishly picky, if not by choice of a potentially life-long partner one is about to share everything with? Not really applicable to my situation, but I find saying this to anyone really stupid.
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