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[Pseudonym]

Maybe I should stop mulling over what boxes I might fit then

[Fantasy Lover]

What you do is entirely up to you, if you feel these labels are an answer to find the missing piece of a puzzle that makes you who you are then there's no harm chasing it.

[Pseudonym]

I think I think it's ultimately pointless, but something I can't help mulling over. And so many people do have self-applied labels I think a lot of people must find it helpful. Dunno, it's not a huge thing one way or the other for me, I just wonder how other people think about it. 

[Van Buren Supernova]

For me, I never feel the need to fit into label or assign myself one or more. I supposed I'm blessed with a**holic confidence that eventhough I feel different, being called weird, antisocial, arrogant, eccentric, rude (big chunk of them come from family too) I don't feel that I need to change anything or to fit myself too much. I do give those names some thoughts, but mostly the conclusion is they don't understand me, not I have to change/fit in. They will eventually understand or get bored trying.

 

But admittedly sometimes I question myself, why noone seems to understand me? Is it so hard? Is how I see and react to the world that different?

For that, I do find MBTI interesting. In funny way, it's like eye opener. I want to point to it and say to everyone, "See? There are people like me too, there is a term for it, and here are the reasons why I am like this. It's spot on. I just can't explain myself that well so mostly I just shrug it off and accept whatever you are calling me. Not that I mind though, I love being weirdo, if only for the sake of seeing you aghast expressions and headshakes."

 

So, yah.. maybe I put it this way. I don't really need people to understand or accept me or recognize me, but it'd be nice if they do, for their sake as well, so they know it's not my intention to be rude. I don't need community, just knowing out there there are people like me is good enough, there sure are, noone is that unique.

I don't need a box, but if I want to get into one, I'd adjust myself, in the end it might not be a box anymore.

[Doe]

 

Vamper wants my blood, i give but mosquito

No no no

Wait.. you would let vampire bite you?

Anyone wants to bite me, they should expect being flat-faced with cooking pan.

 

 

 

 

better than mosquito  :D

[Fantasy Lover]

I prefer the musqito to the walking disco ball.

[Pseudonym]

I vote for neither. No one gets my blood, not even nurses. 

[Doe]

 

Well, darn!  Though I never did think she'd bite once and die, because I knew that the blood enabled her to lay eggs.  Sounds like the second bite may be optional, though.  And at least she wouldn't be continuing to harass someone after she'd bitten them once (at least not till next week).

 

 

I've been bitten by the same mosquito more than once, when they don't fill up or get interrupted in the middle of their first bite.  The worst is getting two bites in the same spot, ugh!

 

 

 

two bites in the same spot!

 

What a sugar spot! 

 

I never slept last night.

[Doe]

 

A monster emerged from me.

Where are 200 eggs!!!?

 

Relax, it's not like Alien (am I thinking of Alien?) -- mosquitos don't lay their eggs on you, they lay them in water.

 

Those autism traits: imo, half of that describes most of the people on the planet.

 

Are you talking about the half that apply to me?  (Though in my case it may be more like 2/3 or 3/4.)

 

Is it true that everyone is in Autism spectrum?

 

Well, if the spectrum has completely autistic at one end and completely non-autistic at the other, then yes, by definition.  And I suspect that the distribution is some sort of bell curve, with very few people being either 0% or 100%, so practically everyone will have at least a few "autistic" characteristics.

 

Which means that from a practical standpoint, many people (professionals and amateurs alike) will tend to overdiagnosis, especially when autism happens to be the Syndrome of the Week.  Just because nearly everyone has some autistic traits, that doesn't mean that we all need to be "treated."

 

I've been bitten by the same mosquito more than once, when they don't fill up or get interrupted in the middle of their first bite.  The worst is getting two bites in the same spot, ugh!

 

 

Now I'm trying to figure out how you know it's the same mosquito.  (I've never been able to get mine to wear name tags.)  Though I suppose if a mosquito got into my bedroom, I'd tend to assume / hope that it was only the one.

 

In here they says, The autistic people are intelligent.

 

 

 

[Doe]

I prefer the musqito to the walking disco ball.

 

 

I never prefer the mosquito.  :P

[Doe]

I vote for neither. No one gets my blood, not even nurses. 

 

What a precious blood you have. 

 

Blue blood Pseud.  :P

[J.P.]

Re labels. I didn't think it would happen, but they helped me a lot. They are much better that this vague "there is something wrong with me" and "why the hell people can do this or that?" It's not about ppl understanding me, but to understand why they often can't, and make peace with it.

 

I felt like a blind person who was never told about being blind, and who wondered why the hell she always run into walls, while others didn't. Any therapy and looking for childhood traumas won't help to avoid walls, what this person needs is a white cane.

 

Plus finding your own flock of kin can be a great discovery, even if you don't intend to join it. :P

[T.o.b.y]

Re labels. I didn't think it would happen, but they helped me a lot. They are much better that this vague "there is something wrong with me" and "why the hell people can do this or that?" It's not about ppl understanding me, but to understand why they often can't, and make peace with it.

 

I felt like a blind person who was never told about being blind, and who wondered why the hell she always run into walls, while others didn't. Any therapy and looking for childhood traumas won't help to avoid walls, what this person needs is a white cane.

 

Plus finding your own flock of kin can be a great discovery, even if you don't intend to join it. :P

:-D I was trying to come up with the right words to describe how I feel about labels but you got there first. Yu-p... Most of the time, I find them helpful. If I have figured them out for myself that is. If other people go and just file me away in a category I do not think I belong in, that's a different matter.

[J.P.]

Once I've read a book written by an autistic woman who were diagnosed very late. And I still remember her describing how surprised she was, that other people didn't have to think all the time about movements of their bodies. She had to, and it made her clumsy and unable to concentrate on anything else while moving. Can you imagine how liberating it was, to know why they were able to talk while walking and she wasn't.

[Carol the Dabbler]

Lol, I'm actually diagnosed with autism and few of these traits apply to me.

 

I think that particular list was supposed to describe an atypical kind of autism, one that often fails to be diagnosed because everybody thinks of autism as the "regular" kind.

 

That's why I hate telling people I'm autistic, I dread the whole "but you look so..... normal' quote.

 

I suspect that a lot of people still think that autism refers only to kids who never talk and who make strange obsessive movements.  That's certainly the way I first heard the word used.  I don't know whether the medical community also used that restricted definition back then, but they certainly don't anymore.  (If anything, I suspect they may sometimes be using the word a bit *too* broadly.)  It'll probably take the general public a while to catch up.

[Van Buren Supernova]

Actually I always look at autism as positive, most talented, determined, brilliant observation and memory skills, consistent and usually very talented in art and field of choosing. Yes, socially awkward and sometimes lacking social skills, but since when it's negative? Yes, it may be a hindrance to some social advancement, but we don't always need that..

 

In my high school there were a bunch of popular kids, they were not bullies or regular mean, in fact they were nice and tried to include me, but they always thought the other bunch of very quiet kids as weird, strange and unapproachable. But they actually were, they talked to me and we had discussions. I teamed up with them later as I felt more comfortable. To me, they were hard working and fun once I got to know them, and we successfully cracked academic competitions. I don't know if any of us have some level of autism, as it's not common to do that kind of test, but they fit those positive traits I mentioned.

 

A family doctor did say I probably need some 'mental' test, not sure what she had in mind.

So, I don't know, everytime I hear the word 'autism' it actually seems like a compliment, although mostly my resemblance stop at social skills, not the rest.

 

 

 

Wait.. you would let vampire bite you?

Anyone wants to bite me, they should expect being flat-faced with cooking pan.

 

 

 

better than mosquito :D

Yep. Those would still flat-faced with pan. No hesitation.

 

But yes, I hate mosquitoes too, would nuke them is there is no other collateral damage. I believe they are number one killer.

[Fantasy Lover]

Actually I always look at autism as positive, most talented, determined, brilliant observation and memory skills, consistent and usually very talented in art and field of choosing. Yes, socially awkward and sometimes lacking social skills, but since when it's negative? Yes, it may be a hindrance to some social advancement, but we don't always need that..

those people are savants.

[J.P.]

And I'm afraid the most of them are severely disabled people, you just don't see them.

[Van Buren Supernova]

Yes, autistic savant.

I don't know if the ones in my story have disabilities I don't see, I suppose I don't know enough to tell. Atypical, spectrum, maybe.

I don't have enough knowledge to say anything meaningful so I better don't.

[Van Buren Supernova]

The half balding guy next to me in check out line only had two types of thing; two dozens of beer and a hair comb.

I had a lot of possible scenarios, life choices and priority, his Saturday planned program played in my head.

[Pseudonym]

You think he'd just be staying in and getting drunk alone, but the comb says no! This is a man on the pull, a man with a friend coming over to help him with those beers. ;)

[Van Buren Supernova]

That is one of the scenarios, also, a bit on the mean side: The beer helps him remember the time he need to use that comb for his magnificent flowing mane..

[Pseudonym]

So, in that scenario, what are you guessing he does with the comb now? 

[Van Buren Supernova]

You see, two dozens of beer could give you illusion. When he is high and look at himself in the mirror, he would want to brush those flowing hair.

[J.P.]

Hmmm… I remember an old home recipe to strengthen your hair - rinse it with beer.
It makes perfect sense.