Introverts, how is your day?

[Artemis]

^ Meeeeee.  I can’t think of a specific example off the top of my head, but I know I’ve got them and I definitely remember thinking “Dangit, I should have done more/better,” for the whole rest of the day afterward.

 

[Pseudonym]

I'm going to be crippled with guilt for the next few hours.

[Pseudonym]

My bro and fam are coming to visit my parents on the weekend, I was waiting for the inevitable emotional blackmail to go along, got a text earlier but it's shockingly straightforward, just a hey, we're about if you're free. ...I am... but I'm not. Still, shockingly non-blackmail-y. Of course he might still sic our mother on me. 

[Van Buren Supernova]

Maybe after all this time, he actually knows the better way to approach you?

Because these few years I feel like my family finally 'get' me, eventhough they are introverts themselves, but I'm more like an extreme compared to them, finally they have stopped being overwhelming and tried to understand the better way to get to me, which is nice and I appreciate a lot.

 

Anyway, could Sherlock be an extrovert after all? 

[Artemis]

Neither of those is my definition of boredom.  I don't think they'd be Sherlock's either (though if I had to choose, I'd say the introvert's would be closer).  Sherlock isn't always "frantically busy" in the traditional sense: Sometimes he's just laying on the couch with his eyes closed.  But his mind is engaged, and that's really the key, and why neither definition in that picture is completely correct.  For me boredom occurs when I'm doing something uninteresting, busy or not.  I could be "busy" shopping or filling out paperwork and be totally bored.  Likewise, small talk is boring because it's a social performance that doesn't require deep thought or actual investment in the interaction, so it feels wasteful, meaningless, and superficial.  ("Bored" isn't the first word that comes to mind when I think of small talk though, personally; "annoyance", "anxiety", "drained", and a lot of other words are higher on the list.)  I think Sherlock would be bored doing anything without purpose.

So yeah, long way of saying I disagree with that picture, lol.

 

[Carol the Dabbler]

1 hour ago, Artemis said:

Sherlock isn't always "frantically busy" in the traditional sense: Sometimes he's just laying on the couch with his eyes closed.  But his mind is engaged....

Does the traditional (dictionary) definition of "busy" refer only to physical activity?  I don't think it does -- but, yeah, a lot of people act like it does.  Which is very annoying when your job consists basically of thinking, but when people see you "just sitting there," they take it as an invitation to walk over and start chatting -- and break your train of thought.  Grrrr!!!

[Artemis]

13 minutes ago, Carol the Dabbler said:

Which is very annoying when your job consists basically of thinking, but when people see you "just sitting there," they take it as an invitation to walk over and start chatting -- and break your train of thought.  Grrrr!!!

^ Yes!  So frustrating.  Also when people think I'm being "lazy".  Just because I'm not running around like a madwoman doesn't mean I'm not occupied!

I think I meant "in the traditional sense" as the prominent connotative idea of "frantic", which tends to be highly physical.  I don't think many people would look at a busy but perfectly still and calm person and say that person is "frantically" busy.

 

[Van Buren Supernova]

1 hour ago, Artemis said:

So yeah, long way of saying I disagree with that picture, lol.

Yah it is

I think the definition is made just like that, just for fun. I agree with "drained" as my definition of small talk, but I certainly bored to tears and half to death a couple of times when I had to attend wedding, and sit for couple of hours in the table with others (strangers or supposedly friends). The one with friends from work, that I thought I would enjoy, almost put me in comma, somehow, they are just not interesting now that we are trapped in this same table. Actually, thankfully, I do have habit to leave party early, and mostly trying to sneak out myself or with my companion. I am also so very grateful that I'm staying too far away from wedding and have passed the age when everyone gets married. Brrrrrr..ghastly.

5 minutes ago, Carol the Dabbler said:

Does the traditional (dictionary) definition of "busy" refer only to physical activity?  I don't think it does -- but, yeah, a lot of people act like it does.  Which is very annoying when your job consists basically of thinking, but when people see you "just sitting there," they take it as an invitation to walk over and start chatting -- and break your train of thought.  Grrrr!!!

Agree!! That is the best way to do my work, I'd be wandering around (mind or physically) doing something unrelated while my mind is preparing about what I'm about to do, when the gear kicks in, it doesn't stop, but I need to turn on the engine and like to be left alone.

 

What about this one

 

 

 

[Pseudonym]

Yup, I'd definitely sign up for that!

[Arcadia]

6 hours ago, Van Buren Supernova said:

I think the definition is made just like that, just for fun. I agree with "drained" as my definition of small talk, but I certainly bored to tears and half to death a couple of times when I had to attend wedding, and sit for couple of hours in the table with others (strangers or supposedly friends). The one with friends from work, that I thought I would enjoy, almost put me in comma, somehow, they are just not interesting now that we are trapped in this same table. Actually, thankfully, I do have habit to leave party early, and mostly trying to sneak out myself or with my companion. I am also so very grateful that I'm staying too far away from wedding and have passed the age when everyone gets married. Brrrrrr..ghastly.

Oh, weddings are the worst. Well, big ones … I've been to a couple of small weddings (as in, not many people in attendance) that I actually rather enjoyed. Big ones … or any big celebration, actually, like my niece's bat mitzvah … I usually wander off half-way through and find someplace to be alone for awhile. I didn't realize it until this moment, but yeah, I think I've done that at every big celebration I've been to.  

6 hours ago, Carol the Dabbler said:

Which is very annoying when your job consists basically of thinking, but when people see you "just sitting there," they take it as an invitation to walk over and start chatting -- and break your train of thought.  Grrrr!!!

Oh, yes. Drives me nutz.                                

[Artemis]

34 minutes ago, Arcadia said:

I usually wander off half-way through and find someplace to be alone for awhile. I didn't realize it until this moment, but yeah, I think I've done that at every big celebration I've been to.

Same here, as long as I can find a place.  I didn’t realize it until a few years back, when I was reading somebody else’s experience with Asperger’s and they mentioned having the same behavior.  I think it’s likely something a lot of introverts do, too.

 

[Pseudonym]

I think I set up camp somewhere quiet and hope to be left alone. The last family party I went to both of my sister in laws and my niece latched onto me the whole time. Not cool, guys, not cool. 

[Pseudonym]

Odd. A delivery driver just said to be 'Oh! You have curly hair! I didn't see your hair yesterday.' Strange thing to comment on. 

[Carol the Dabbler]

Were you wearing a hat yesterday?

[Pseudonym]

Yup

[Arcadia]

2 hours ago, Artemis said:

Same here, as long as I can find a place.  I didn’t realize it until a few years back, when I was reading somebody else’s experience with Asperger’s and they mentioned having the same behavior.  I think it’s likely something a lot of introverts do, too.

That reminds me of a program I heard once on NPR, profiling a girl, a college student, and all the ways her social life was affected by Asperger's (I think it was Asperger's, it might have been mild autism.) And I'm sitting there going "but, but, that describes ME!" 

But I don't have Asperger's, or anything on that spectrum. So I tend to take with a grain of salt anything that is described as "normal" behavior, at least in social situations. I do believe it's normal for the sun to come up every morning. 😉 

[Pseudonym]

Not in this country it's not, sometimes we don't have any sign of the sun for weeks.

[Artemis]

I wish I could cancel today.  It's been one thing after another since I stepped out of bed.  I'm exhausted and I'm tempted to go back to bed ASAP.

 

[Van Buren Supernova]

10 hours ago, Arcadia said:

That reminds me of a program I heard once on NPR, profiling a girl, a college student, and all the ways her social life was affected by Asperger's (I think it was Asperger's, it might have been mild autism.) And I'm sitting there going "but, but, that describes ME!" 

But I don't have Asperger's, or anything on that spectrum. So I tend to take with a grain of salt anything that is described as "normal" behavior, at least in social situations. I do believe it's normal for the sun to come up every morning. 😉 

Argh... same here. Sometimes I feel like holding a sign:

 

No. I'm not sad because I stay alone.

No. I am not angry with you just because I don't talk to you.

I don't like to talk with people is not an insult for you.

Yes I like to hide but no, nothing is wrong.

When I say leave me alone I mean it.

When I say I don't feel like coming I mean it.

Don't look for me, let me look for you when I feel like I want to.

 

And pleaseeeee, give me a chance to miss you!

 

Andddddd many other thingsssssssssss......

[Van Buren Supernova]

5 hours ago, Artemis said:

I wish I could cancel today.  It's been one thing after another since I stepped out of bed.  I'm exhausted and I'm tempted to go back to bed ASAP.

I felt the same yesterday, and gave myself a little jump when I let out noises like Irene's when I finally rested my back on the bed.

Not with Irene's intention, I need to elaborate.

[Carol the Dabbler]

20 minutes ago, Van Buren Supernova said:

I felt the same yesterday, and gave myself a little jump when I let out noises like Irene's when I finally rested my back on the bed.

Not with Irene's intention, I need to elaborate.

 

You weren't intending to let Sherlock know that he had a new text message?

 

[Pseudonym]

2 hours ago, Van Buren Supernova said:

I felt the same yesterday, and gave myself a little jump when I let out noises like Irene's when I finally rested my back on the bed.

Not with Irene's intention, I need to elaborate.

Eurgh, glad you clarified. 

It's still dark and early here so who know what horrors await. I am exhausted though, four hours a night sleep gets killer by the end of the week. 

[Arcadia]

16 hours ago, Pseudonym said:

Not in this country it's not, sometimes we don't have any sign of the sun for weeks.

I've also been known to believe in things I can't actually see.

11 hours ago, Artemis said:

I wish I could cancel today.  It's been one thing after another since I stepped out of bed.  I'm exhausted and I'm tempted to go back to bed ASAP.

Gah, I hate those days. Monday was like that. I feel like I'm still in recovery phase.

3 hours ago, Pseudonym said:

It's still dark and early here so who know what horrors await. I am exhausted though, four hours a night sleep gets killer by the end of the week. 

Why only four? Not good for brain work...

[Pseudonym]

I agree, it's not. I'm naturally wired to be nocturnal, but I also get up at 6am. To put this context my natural bedtime, when I'm not working, is around 7am. As it is I usually manage to fall asleep around 1-2. I sleep a lot on the weekends though, which means I recover a bit. 

Someone on my WhatsApp group lives on the the most northernly point of the UK, and she's making me so jealous with photos of where she lives and tales of the wildlife she sees. Her farm overlooks the sea and she gets to see whales. And they regularly have the northern lights. I want to live there! 

[Artemis]

I'm naturally nocturnal as well.    Saw this on Tumblr earlier.
 

"My BiL is a neurologist who has done a lot of sleep research and one of his favorite areas of study is circadian rhythms. He says that being a night owl is real, it is predicated on the genetic structure of the brain, it is not just “laziness,” and it is not a disorder. He hypothesizes that its original evolutionary purpose was basically to produce night watchmen—people who can stay awake and alert at night to protect the domicile while the early birds sleep.

So we’re not lazy, night owls; we’re the F***ing late shift lookouts. Gonna grab my torch and patrol the perimeter if anyone would like to join me."

[Link]