Introverts, how is your day?

[T.o.b.y]

Oh you poor thing. On occasions like those, I miss being a little kid who could just hide under a table in a corner.

 

I hate musical chairs. Always have, as long as I can remember.

[Carol the Dabbler]

I hate anything that makes me rush, and that would definitely include musical chairs.  I suppose if I could get myself into a sufficiently silly mood, though, it might be kinda fun (although still pointless).  You did say that people were bringing drinks?  That might explain everything.

[Artemis]

Good luck with your family get-together tomorrow, Pseud!

[Pseudonym]

Today, just got home. :smile: Well, not home, home - I'm sleeping on my parents sofa and going home tomorrow, but home from the party at least. 

 

I survived. Yea, everyone was bringing their own drinks. My niece thought I was an alcoholic because of the number of empty bottles in front of me, but they weren't all mine. I did get roped into a few daft games, but nothing too bad. And watching grown men struggling to pick up a progressively smaller box from the floor with their mouthes was quite entertaining. Could have done without people thinking I was married to my brother due to no one recognising me, and also could have done without my sister in law trying to guilt me into having kids, but aside from that not a bad night really. No arguments. 

[Artemis]

Oh, I had it in my mind it was on Sunday for some reason.  I'm glad it was tolerable.  I've dealt with the not being recognized thing too, and the kids thing, that's an annoyance.

 

Speaking of being recognized, I stopped for dinner at a cafe tonight, and the guy who took my order remembered my name, even though I haven't been there in almost a year and only saw him before a couple of times.  How'd he do that?!  No one ever remembers my name (or me), especially not over that amount of time, lol.

 

 

[Carol the Dabbler]

Some people can just do that. (I am not one of them).

 

I was with a group of people who spent a day driving around Eastern Iowa, making several stops. Another member of the group was a guy from California who was well known within the organization. He was not in my car, so we only saw each other at the stops, and had no occasion to talk other than me being introduced to him.

 

Six months later, I was at an event in Minnesota. He came into the room, immediately noticed me, and walked straight over to introduce me to his wife, mentioning to her that we had met in Iowa. I was flabbergasted.

[T.o.b.y]

That is impressive. I am terrible with names. So thankful that everyone at work wears name tags and I have good glasses.

[Pseudonym]

I’m usually okay if I actually remember to make a point of remembering, the problem is when someone tells me their name it’s usually in one ear and out the other so I forget immediately.

[Pseudonym]

8 AM. Barely slept. Any moment now I might get two small children jumping on me.

[Carol the Dabbler]

That is impressive. I am terrible with names. So thankful that everyone at work wears name tags and I have good glasses.

 

I *love* name tags  :wub:  (assuming the lettering is large enough and they're worn in a position where I can actually see the entire relevant portion).  The staff at our vet's office do not wear name tags, so the only way I've been able to learn any of their names is to pay attention when they introduce themselves (but, like Pseud, I usually have other things on my mind at that time) or when I'm in the waiting room and one of them answers the phone.

 

I've heard some people say that name tags are "de-humanizing" or something like that -- but I suspect those are people who have a knack for learning names.  How is not knowing someone's name less de-humanizing than asking them to wear a name tag?  Even if I manage to learn a name quickly, putting it with the face takes additional practice, and name tags are excellent "training wheels" during that awkward phase.

[T.o.b.y]

Dehumanizing? Wut? Doesn't it rather promote politeness? I think it's good manners to use another person's name when you talk to them and a name tag helps with that. Also, for customers / clients / whatever the people are called whom you serve, it's way more reassuring to see your full name written out for them than to only hear you say it once and then maybe not in a way that they could understand very well.

 

I certainly don't feel dehumanized by a name tag. If anything, it makes me feel important! :-D

[Pseudonym]

I'm stumped why it would be dehumanising too. 

 

Here's one for you - when you ring up a helpline and people use your name - do you care if it's your first name or would you rather be called miss/ms/mrs whatever? I generally don't care, but I hate it when people use my name excessively. When I worked for a helpline it was for Virgin Media, who try to project this 'we're cool and hip and funky' persona, and they wanted you to call everyone by their first name a certain amount of times per call or you'd get penalised. I don't tend to use names much when I'm speaking to people anyway, but I also felt a bit weird calling older people by their first names. If my dad called up a company and they kept calling him 'John' I don't think he'd like it. He probably wouldn't say anything, but I doubt he'd be keen. It depends how it's done as well, some people just come across sounding over-familiar, which is very off putting. 

[Arcadia]

I hate name tags! I don't even know for sure why, but I always have done. At one time I was required to wear one in certain situations, and I always went out of my way to make it different; decorate it, write it backwards, wear it upside down. I don't think I feel dehumanized by them, exactly ... it's more like I feel like my privacy's being invaded when complete strangers use my name. Probably doesn't make sense, but I still hate wearing them.

 

Same with helplines ... if they have to use my name at all, I prefer they use my last name ... less personal. Am I weird? (And if I am, do I care? :p)

[Artemis]

I don't think I feel dehumanized by them, exactly ... it's more like I feel like my privacy's being invaded when complete strangers use my name. Probably doesn't make sense, but I still hate wearing them.

 

Same with helplines ... if they have to use my name at all, I prefer they use my last name ... less personal. Am I weird? (And if I am, do I care? :P)

 

Same here I think.  It's not that I hate them either though, and I don't feel dehumanized by them.  It's more a privacy thing.  It feels more personal than I'm really comfortable with.  I'm the same way about having my name taken when I order takeout somewhere.  They used to call me up by my receipt number, but they're trying to project this fakey "friendly" atmosphere that I just find personally repulsive.  I'd rather be a number.

 

 

[Van Buren Supernova]

Today is the mother of all Mondays for me. Back to work. People I like are going away. And I have to start meeting with people I don't like.

 

Hihi this Japanese egg thingy kind of how I feel right now.

 

I hate name tag too, but selfishly wish others wear it especially those with names I can't spell. Also trouble remembering names.

Also hate it when they do it in cafe, shouting your name when your coffee is ready. Just give me a glance, I'm watching to get my coffee like a hawk.

 

Last month I tried to browse for prices of car (if I ever get one someeeeeday) and this website had online chat room, which I was happy at first, but they insisted on asking name before answering my questions, or answer one question and kept asking name without answering the rest. They probably had some kind of regulation about name? But I freaking hate it and refused to answer it. They didn't bulge also. So nevermind, apparently my name is more important than your *potential* sale. I want to use fake name but haven't mastered it.

 

Many of places here don't give a crap for privacy as well. For example we have prepaid phone card (and that's what I use forever as I hate anything that ties me down), everytime I want to top up they would repeat my number very loudly for all the people in the store to hear. I tried to write it down on paper, and retrieved it after, they still feel it's necessary to call it out.

The mechanic for my bike, call out name and registration number everytime they found something on the bike and when it's time to pay. It's worse because you can't even fake the name if you want to as it's registered.

 

 

Eta:

The only time I fly business class (upgraded for free because of overbooking), the stewardess referred to us in first name, that was probably the only time I felt good about it :p, because they have good cake in there man!!

[Carol the Dabbler]

... when you ring up a helpline and people use your name - do you care if it's your first name or would you rather be called miss/ms/mrs whatever? I generally don't care, but I hate it when people use my name excessively.  [....[  If my dad called up a company and they kept calling him 'John' I don't think he'd like it. He probably wouldn't say anything, but I doubt he'd be keen. It depends how it's done as well, some people just come across sounding over-familiar, which is very off putting. 

 

I agree.  The one exception where I prefer that they use my last name is when I'm expected to call the professionals by their last name + doctor (or whatever).  Otherwise, it feels like they're trying to claim adult status for themselves and treat me like a child.

 

Actually, the most annoying experience I ever had, namewise, was one customer service representative (apparently in India) who kept calling me "Carol Ma'am."    It sounded so subservient that I cringed every time he said it.

 

I hate name tags! I don't even know for sure why, but I always have done. At one time I was required to wear one in certain situations, and I always went out of my way to make it different; decorate it, write it backwards, wear it upside down. I don't think I feel dehumanized by them, exactly ... it's more like I feel like my privacy's being invaded when complete strangers use my name. Probably doesn't make sense, but I still hate wearing them.

 

Same with helplines ... if they have to use my name at all, I prefer they use my last name ... less personal. Am I weird? (And if I am, do I care? :P)

 

I agree in cases when the other person has no reason to know or use my name.  But if there's a good reason why they might need to know it, then I don't mind at all.  If it's at my workplace, it just makes me feel more like a professional.  And if it's at a convention or the like, where I'll be meeting new people, then it's nice that we can call each other by name, plus if I see them at next year's event, a nametag makes it easier for me to be sure whether I've met them before or not.  And of course my nametag likewise makes things easier for them.

 

I'm the same way about having my name taken when I order takeout somewhere.  They used to call me up by my receipt number, but they're trying to project this fakey "friendly" atmosphere that I just find personally repulsive.  I'd rather be a number.

 

Me too!  That's definitely one of those "no reason to know" situations, plus what if another Carol is there at the same time?

 

I know some people who just make up a name.  ;)

[Artemis]

I picked up some birthday cake, but it's no good.  The cake is dry and crumbly, and it's waaaay too sweet.  Might be my taste buds, but it's so sweet it's almost inedible.  I might just throw it out and look for something else later tonight.

I'm trying to decide what to do today, in my free time.  I may pick a belated activity for another day.  Monday birthdays, blah.

 

 

[Pseudonym]

Ah, happy birthday to you!  :bdaybanner:

 

*Stands half a foot away and belts out 'Happy Birthday' at the top of my lungs*

[Artemis]

Lol, thank you!

 

*Noise-cancelling headphones*  ^_^

 

 

[Pseudonym]

Aw, I was hoping to get you a ruptured ear-drum for your birthday. 

[J.P.]

, Artemis.

[T.o.b.y]

Happy Birthday! I hope you found yourself a better cake.

[Arcadia]

Happy Birthday! I'll take your cake, the sweeter the better, I don't care how dry it is! (Can you tell I haven't had cake in awhile? :d) 

:tulip: 

[Artemis]

Thanks everyone!  I didn't really have time to hunt for a new cake, but I might look for one later.  Can't let my birthday pass without cake!

 

Arcadia, you can have it if you come get it.  Should only take you 18 hours or so.  :P

 

 

[Van Buren Supernova]

Oh bloody sweet dry cake eh? You can forget about taking over the 12th then :P 

Did you spot Mycroft's around? Did he hoard all the good cakes?

Ehm.. eh, the only reason why I want cake every time is because I can't find good cakes around here. It's very hard to find cakes that are not too sweet, good quality and don't cost me some limbs.

 

Ring me up when you find good cake and Happy birthday!! Make x wish. (x = age, that is the perk of growing older :p)

What do you guys normally do for your birthday? I haven't been celebrating birthday since polar bears are still thriving.