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Fantasy Lover · April 19, 2017

Don't compare yourself with others, it makes you feel worthless. Trust me, I know from experience.

Doe · April 19, 2017

Don't compare yourself with others, it makes you feel worthless. Trust me, I know from experience.

Thank you my friend. The same age. I felt weird.

J.P. · April 19, 2017

There are many people that made me think: "I want to be like her/him when I grow up." It can be a bit discouraging suddenly realizing you are grown up and still not like them. :/

SherlockedCAMPer · April 19, 2017

I just turned 39 four days after Benedict's wife. There's a lot of things I wanted to accomplish when I grew up and most of those things I came up with as an adult. I'm definitely not where I expected I would be but at the same time I wouldn't change it because of the various things I've learned through the process.

Carol the Dabbler · April 20, 2017

... and if you'd already accomplished everything you wanted to do, what would you do then? Think of your as-yet-unfultilled dreams as room for improvement (or if you prefer, as job security).

SherlockedCAMPer · April 20, 2017

... and if you'd already accomplished everything you wanted to do, what would you do then? Think of your as-yet-unfultilled dreams as room for improvement (or if you prefer, as job security).

I'm self-employed and need my business to take off just to survive as a single parent let alone any dreams I've had over the years.

J.P. · April 20, 2017

It's not that I see me as a looser, but I remember at Sherlocked 2015 seeing all those people who successed* having so much fun with their jobs, I was suddenly overwhelmed by a feeling of inadequacy, and (yes) envy. It was not about being famous, btw. - it's about doing what you love and earning your living with it. This really made me think for a while.

Pseudonym · April 20, 2017

I don't think many people do get to make a living doing what they love - it's a lucky few. It's fine having dreams, but at the end of the day there are bills to pay.

Doe · April 20, 2017

I don't think many people do get to make a living doing what they love - it's a lucky few. It's fine having dreams, but at the end of the day there are bills to pay.

Doe · April 20, 2017

What are your skills?

Doe · April 20, 2017

We ask to Ben, "Do you find yourself succesful?"

I am sure that he will say, "Not enough."

J.P. · April 20, 2017

I know that. For every successful person there are thousands that failed, we just don't hear about them. That's why I don't ponder about it all the time, and also stopped to ask myself "what if". But seeing Danny Hargeaves and his pals having a hell of a time explaining things to us, and successful writers…

I wanted to write, I was obsessed with it, until it left me in my twenties. I can draw okay, just stopped doing it at some time. Was considering an apprenticeship for a theatre set builder. Being a Jack of all Trades in my case means I can do almost everything but I am medicore at it. -_-

When you hear too often how smart and talended you are, can rise your expectation a bit. On the other hand, considering the circumstances (emmigration in early twenties, depression, complete lack of social networking skills) I'm actually doing pretty well.

Pseudonym · April 20, 2017

Oh yea, it's definitely a bit gutting seeing those who succeeded.

Van Buren Supernova · April 20, 2017

I think the key is not to look up, but look down and then you can see that success is very relative.

Of all the times I'm envious about 'successful' people, there are many times more when I feel grateful just by looking at the struggle of others making ends meet.

Or, the easier way, turn on the news.

Sometimes I even feel guilty when I have warm bed to cuddle in and enough or excessive food to eat or not having to worry about war, at least for now.

Anyway, I realize that successful doesn't equal happiness as well, even though it seems so or success can buy good imitation of happiness. That's why I've been working to achieve happiness instead of wealth (well, that is also the excuse I use to make me feel better :p, but it floats my boat, so..)

Doe · April 20, 2017

You are right. Sometimes, most especially, when you come to my age, you can feel weird.

I must ..., I have to ..., I am late...etc.

feeling of belatedness, feeling of being late, feeling of inadequacy,

I wish, there are ten more of me. ^_^

Van Buren Supernova · April 20, 2017

You are right. Sometimes, most especially, when you come to my age, you can feel weird.

I must ..., I have to ..., I am late...etc.

feeling of belatedness, feeling of being late, feeling of inadequacy,

Very near!

I understand that, that's why I try not to compare myself to people with better lives, or seemingly better lives.

And there are always friends/acquaintances who think they are better and try to bring you down, there were times when I let them did that, but I had enough and cut them off my life and have been doing so since ten years ago. Life is short, I don't need people like that.

And I doubt they are genuinely happy if showing off and bring others down is what they enjoy.

I wish, there are ten more of me. ^_^

Me too

Not ten, maybe four will do.

But for different reasons.

I want my multiple me for the following:

1. Work to feed the rest of us

2. Do house chores

3. Socialize so I don't have to

4. To take the blame for things I would do if I could get away with it (oh there are many! )

J.P. · April 20, 2017

Yeah, I know it all, I actually thought I'm over it already. (Still remember how I cried listening about the surprising success of Jostein Gaarder with his Sophie's World.)

But there is still this idiotic thought like: you should have tried harder…

Well, at least it needed a whole bunch of successful people in one place to wake this feeling. And the second time it wasn't so strong anymore.

Caya · April 20, 2017

Pseudonym · April 20, 2017

All of this is part of the reason I hate Facebook, the way so many people carefully edit what they post so that their lives seem so much more successful and exciting than they really are. Everyone is having a wonderful time and everything is going perfectly, but it's mostly bull.

Doe · April 20, 2017

You are right. Sometimes, most especially, when you come to my age, you can feel weird.

I must ..., I have to ..., I am late...etc.

feeling of belatedness, feeling of being late, feeling of inadequacy,

Very near!

I understand that, that's why I try not to compare myself to people with better lives, or seemingly better lives.

And there are always friends/acquaintances who think they are better and try to bring you down, there were times when I let them did that, but I had enough and cut them off my life and have been doing so since ten years ago. Life is short, I don't need people like that.

And I doubt they are genuinely happy if showing off and bring others down is what they enjoy.

I wish, there are ten more of me. ^_^
Me too
Not ten, maybe four will do.

But for different reasons.

I want my multiple me for the following:

1. Work to feed the rest of us

2. Do house chores

3. Socialize so I don't have to

4. To take the blame for things I would do if I could get away with it (oh there are many! )

You will put others to work. :D

Doe · April 20, 2017

But there is still this idiotic thought like: you should have tried harder…

Me, too

I should have tried harder.

Turkish song from me to you

I Am On A Long Narrow Road

I'm on a long narrow road