Introverts, how is your day?

[Fantasy Lover]

Oh God, as a gay woman I hate it when my community does that. I mean we spent the last two decades trying to convince you that we're not love hungry lunatics with a hidden agenda to make everyone gay by trying to get in your pants and then this woman does that! Urgh, not cool!

[Pseudonym]

I get your point, but I don't really think of it like that - god knows I've had more unwanted and unwelcome advances from men than women. Gender and sexuality, in that regard, are a non issue to me - honestly if I met someone I really liked it wouldn't much matter to me what sex they are.

She's never done anything physical, apart from one time when she spent the whole day sitting way too close and sidling closer at which point I knew she was working up to something and legged it. 

The point earlier about not sitting on a bench seat is definitely a good one, sitting opposite seems a much safer alternative!

 

 

[Pseudonym]

Oh God, how is it still so early, I'm drained! Just packed a parcel that is probably about the same weight as me and all around much bigger, took two of us wrestling the thing to get it in postable shape, and personally I would have put a few more layers of cardboard on it but then I'm always pretty OTT with my packing. Eurgh, bed time, pleeease! 

[Carol the Dabbler]

... be 'so exhausted I need to go get some sleep' if it's starting to go south.

 

Just make sure that it doesn't sound like a coy invitation for her to join you!

[Van Buren Supernova]

I think Toby's advice is great.

You don't have to hang out with her if she doesn't want to understand your boundary. The dilemma of being there for her shouldn't compensate your comfort in that way, especially if she takes it for granted. Anyway, I'm not sure if it's appropriate for her to make a move if she is still grieving from her failed relationship, unless you are a rebound, or maybe, one of the reasons. I don't know.

 

What is in the parcel? XD

Is it Sherlock hiding in the cake for John?

 

 

I have exhausting days. All my colleagues are extroverts now, and although they are not the worse kind, they have been pushing their limits more.

They were asking if they could hang out at my house (okay I don't even let 99% of my relatives come to my house, I make good effort to keep my residence secret from my work/they only have my old address because I moved. The only ex colleague who knows my house is the one who gave me her puppy and she IS a friend and house visit is only for dog purpose).

I only know these people for months at best and they know nothing about me. So I said of course no.

Then today, they ask again, so is it confirmed that we could hangout in your place for Christmas?

 

Wait, what??

[Pseudonym]

'Is it confirmed'? :O No, it most certainly is not! 

 

I hate people coming to the house unannounced, I never open the door. Luckily I never really get anyone try, a lot of my friends don't drive and fortunately I'm a bit out of the way to just drop by. 

 

The parcel is BC, on his way to Norway for his first stage of being brainwashed ready for our Khan-off. 

 

If Sherlock is hiding in a cake he better be careful he doesn't get eaten by Mycroft. 

[Pseudonym]

OMG, it is too late in the day for this influx of orders! Go away, you're stressing me out!

[Carol the Dabbler]

I have exhausting days. All my colleagues are extroverts now, and although they are not the worse kind, they have been pushing their limits more.

They were asking if they could hang out at my house (okay I don't even let 99% of my relatives come to my house, I make good effort to keep my residence secret from my work/they only have my old address because I moved. The only ex colleague who knows my house is the one who gave me her puppy and she IS a friend and house visit is only for dog purpose).

I only know these people for months at best and they know nothing about me. So I said of course no.

Then today, they ask again, so is it confirmed that we could hangout in your place for Christmas?

 

Wait, what??

 

Here in the US, that is known as "inviting yourself over."  It is generally considered to be poor behavior unless you are on such close terms with the other person that you're practically living together anyhow.

 

When your employer hired these people, did they move there from somewhere else, a long distance away?  If so, I could certainly understand them wanting somewhere to celebrate Christmas, since they might not be able to go home for it.  But inviting themselves over, no.  If none of them has a big enough place, they could find a casual restaurant that's going to be open and sort of claim a corner for themselves.

[Van Buren Supernova]

You are right Carol, all of them except me are based in another town, and they are currently staying at staff quarter. Most likely spending year end here. However, they have much more space and people there compared to unclear condition they might get from an anti social colleague. How do they know I don't have thumbs in my fridge? And it was clear when I refused.

Also, they don't celebrate Christmas and me neither, just a scrawny Christmas tree in the corner with holiday mood.

 

Hmm.. how if I say yes and give them address to the wood? Bahahhahhahhahahhahaaa..

[Van Buren Supernova]

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The parcel is BC, on his way to Norway for his first stage of being brainwashed ready for our Khan-off. 

 

Ah.

If I were you, after wrapping that, I would unwrap and keep what is inside, hide him in the attic and tell him the training has started.

Well of course he wouldn't stand a chance in Khan-off, but maybe that shouldn't be your priority. XD

 

If Sherlock is hiding in a cake he better be careful he doesn't get eaten by Mycroft.

 

That would be tragic.

Mycroft wouldn't be able to get second helping if he likes the cake!

[Carol the Dabbler]

How do they know I don't have thumbs in my fridge?

 

Now there's an idea! Get a bunch of thumbs (hey, don't ask me where -- it was your idea!) and put them in a large clear glass container in the most visible spot in your fridge. Then when the first "guest" arrives, ask them to get you something from the fridge.

 

Or if you're too chicken to go for thumbs, you could get some eyeballs from a butcher shop.

[Van Buren Supernova]

But that means they would be in my house, which is never going to happen. I have no plan to add my list of visitors, which is very very very very short list.

 

Also have no plan to be closer to them except colleague at work. I made exception previously and it doesn't feel good when I lost the friendship that way. So, no, it's closed.

Anyway I have good feeling that I'm only clicking with them at this distance, not closer.

[J.P.]

You can also try out this Heads in The Fridge trick

[Arcadia]

:o

[Van Buren Supernova]

I had seen that tutorial before, but then again they are not coming.

 

Putting those in office is out of question as well.. our office is naturally creepy as it is.

 

 

Yesterday I got to witness an extraordinary stamina of a kid cry screaming in public. Good god, one would think she was being tortured. That is the worst kind.

[Pseudonym]

That last head looks inappropriately amused to be in a jar. 

 

I remember seeing a kid having an epic tantrum on a peer once, and was awed and horrified by how long that went on for. She was lying on the floor, violently flailing and screaming at ear splitting volume. Her parents were just having a normal conversation and completely ignoring her, which I suppose is all you can do after a point.

[Arcadia]

My parents would have told me off royally if I'd pulled a stunt like that. Since they hardly ever told any of us kids off for anything, when they did, we sure listened! Aces, my parents. Wouldn't trade 'em for anything. Not even a pony.

[Pseudonym]

I've spent my day in a fluffy onesie, lying under a pile of blankets and reading Christmas fics. It's been glorious. But it means the day has flown by, and somehow it's already Sunday night and back to the real world tomorrow. :(

[SherlockedCAMPer]

When johnspec was little and attempted a tantrum in public, I'd just pick him up and get on with what needed to be done.

 

It's always fun to be able to spend the day reading, but agree with you Pseudonym that time definitely flies while doing it.

[Carol the Dabbler]

My parents would have told me off royally if I'd pulled a stunt like that. Since they hardly ever told any of us kids off for anything, when they did, we sure listened! Aces, my parents. Wouldn't trade 'em for anything. Not even a pony.

 

If we ever acted up in public (never anywhere *near* throwing a tantrum, though!) my parents would immediately take us home and *ahem* explain to us that we were not supposed to do that.

 

I was once on a nature hike when we encountered a thunder storm of epic proportions.  It was a seriously dangerous situation (and the organization that had sponsored the hike immediately modified their "rain or shine" policy!), but there we were, halfway between here and there, with no choice but to continue.  There was a young boy along, maybe eight or ten years old, who kept screaming "Make it stop!" at the top of his lungs.  I sympathized with his sentiments, but I'll tell ya, the screaming got on my nerves even worse than the thunder.

[T.o.b.y]

As a former child who had terrific tantrums, I feel the need to point out that they aren't always just a sign of being spoiled rotten.

 

I certainly never chose to lose my shit and I didn't do it to annoy anybody. I was just oversensitive, a bit "high strung" as elderly relatives would put it, and had a massive filter problem.

 

Picture Sherlock in The Hounds of Baskerville after he has seen the monster, when he's sitting at the fireplace yelling at John. Yeah that's me. Only as a little girl and a bit more dramatic. And not drinking alcohol.

 

My parents took it in stride, me as well as the disapproving glances and remarks of other people. I grew out of it. When I see a little urchin rolling around on the floor at the supermarket, my first thought isn't "what a brat" but "gosh, you poor thing, that's exhausting. Also, I don't want to be your parents right now."

 

Of course, some kids just are bratty. But it's hard to tell from a distance and I had rather give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

[Arcadia]

True, but in my own defense, I didn't mean to put down the kids in that situation, but the parents who act as if nothing is going on ... or worse, yell at the child or jerk on them or something. My parents dealt with it, effectively but in the least dramatic way possible, and I really respected them for that. But of course different kids need to be dealt with in different ways. When my autistic grandnephew has a meltdown, for instance, telling him to behave or else isn't going to help. I don't know what does, but his parents seem to cope.

[Van Buren Supernova]

Yup, looking at parents who just continue to middle with their phone, food or whatever and let the kids scream bloody murder in unacceptable decibel in public place is unbearable. I get that sometime that is the way to deal with them, ignoring, but not in public place, we are not deaf yet.

Crying and screaming aside, there are kids whose parents let them run around, stand on table and being impolite to strangers and breaking stuffs.

 

It's funny that I find those people who can't control their kids are normally the one who give speech about one should have kids. While the parents of well behaved kids normally never do that. Thinking back, I think that is accurate for most of people that I know. Irony eh.. ?

Oh, and I definitely have used variation of why? seeing your kids make me don't want any but instead of backing out, they laughed and thought I was joking. 

[T.o.b.y]

:-D It's still a very good answer though!

 

It's very rude when people tell you what you should do with your life. I doubt they're a better judge of what's right for you than you are yourself. Besides, not everyone who is childless actually had a choice in the matter and if they just go around telling people they should have kids, they're probably causing a lot of hurt in the process.

 

Besides, it's rotten advice. Our planet is overpopulated, the last thing we need is people having children who don't even want to.

[Van Buren Supernova]

Besides, not everyone who is childless actually had a choice in the matter and if they just go around telling people they should have kids, they're probably causing a lot of hurt in the process.

Agree.

My friend can't have kids and she had tried almost every way. It's very hurtful for her when people bring up the topic. It even makes her sad to hear her colleagues talking about their pregnancy.

So once in a while when I'm in town she enjoys meet-up when I can trash talking about all those people and expectation. At least we can bond about being childless in society that expect you to breed.

 

Besides, it's rotten advice. Our planet is overpopulated, the last thing we need is people having children who don't even want to.

Yup.

Sometimes I thought we could create a very wonderful human being (if he/she gets best qualities of us) who could contribute something great to the planet, but then with potential wrong education, he/she also has potential to be scumbag who ruins people's lives. Eh.. let me get puppies, they are naturally kind.